My fiancé's father has five sisters, all of whom are married with children, all of whom (for the most part) are married with children. Since we are inviting all first cousins on my side and his mother's side of the family, as well as their children (most of whom are in the wedding party) and all of my friends' children, I feel like I have to invite all of these cousins and their families. We are aiming to only have about 125 at our reception but this one branch of family totals close to 70 people - and I am not even sure how many kids some of them have! We are weeks away from sending save the dates and I still don't have some of their names & addresses. I don't know what to do. We would rather invite our friends than all of these family members we barely know and who may not even come.. but I obviuosly can't count on that. If we invited everyone we wanted to and all of the cousins it would be over 200. We expect a slightly higher than average % of people not to come due to travel distance and our wedding is a holiday weekend, but I don't think if we invite 210-220 we will get 120-130 or less.
Is it okay to invite some of them but not all? Is it in poor taste to just cut some of the cousins from the list that live far away? My fiancé sort of expressed to most of his aunts & uncles that we were inviting everyone, and invited a couple of his cousins he knows on facebook to our informal engagement party (they didn't come, but they were invited). What if I can't get the rest of the addresses before sending STDs? A lot of my college friends & some mutual friends live far away and I am sure they won't be able to come if we don't give them a heads up they are invited with a STD.
Help!
