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Have I mentioned...

paintgirlpaintgirl member
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I'm being a bit of an AW here but I can't help it...

Have I mentioned that tomorrow morning my house is officially listed with a realtor? And there's probably an open house NEXT SUNDAY?? What the heck am I thinking? I love this city. My friends are here. There's SO much to do here...

Then why am I sitting at home alone working on a Friday night? Because I'd rather be with bf in our sleepy little mid-western town. (And I have a ton of work to do.) This weekend seems like a total waste because I'm not with him and all friends mentioned above seem to be out of town this weekend so there's no one to play with.

This is really, really freaky... Any advice from the gals that have moved for LDRs?

Average days on market in my neighborhood is less than 60. My realtor only requested a 90 day contract because "it will be gone by then". I could be moving out before summertime. Ahhhhhhh!!!
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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    edited December 2011
    Take a deep breath.

    PHEEEEW. Okay.

    I don't really know what I should say.... but.... uhh.... moving to be with FI (back when he was BF) was the BEST decision I ever made. Sure, it was thrilling and kind of scary! DUH! I packed everything I could fit in my car and started driving less than 2 weeks after he asked me to stay with him ON A WHIM. Not really a whim, you know.... more like a BANG! This is it. We need to be together. Screw this whole long-distance thing. Why bother? We don't HAVE to be apart.

    And then I got here. And it was scary and thrilling and crazy, but AWESOME. Just amazing. It took me a while to adjust, but boy.... waking up every morning next to him? Being able to do NORMAL things like cook together or watch a movie? Priceless. I'd do it a hundred times over in a heartbeat because all that stress and uncertainty was so worth it. I can't imagine what my life would be if I'd said no.

    What if I'd chickened out? What if I had been too comfortable at home? I don't even know. That wouldn't be me, I guess. I took his spur-of-the-moment invitation as a challenge and haven't looked back since.

    I miss things. I miss my mom, mostly. And my cousin and her kids (they grow up so fast!). I had friends there, and I hardly speak to them now. But I have new friends, and new hobbies, and I went back to school.... and I have an awesome FI who I love and wouldn't give up for the world.

    You'll be fine. Turn on some crazy 80's music and dance around your living room like a mad woman. Pour yourself a glass of cheap wine and get packing! Before you know it, you'll be with the guy you love ALL THE TIME.

    And.... then you'll have to think REALLY hard to remember what it was like to be apart. I know I do. Innocent
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Jeana, you're the best. :) When I was getting ready to leave bf's this week, I mentioned that everyone is out of town this weekend so it will be a quiet weekend. He said, "So why are you going back?" I said, "well, 'cause I live there..." And we just stared at each other and then laughed. It was such a stupid reason to leave him... It's like we both figured out in that second that there really is no reason to come back here...

    I go back to see him March 10 - and am there for over a month!! (Minus 4 days of work-related travel)
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    Coming from always living in a big city to a somewhat farm community has been AWESOME.  I love that the pace of life is slower.  I love that people smile and say hello.  I love that our neighbors don't look at us like freaks when we wave (yes, this happened to us in SD.)  There is a better sense of community.

    As far as moving in, we already lived together before getting married and moving up here, and had pretty much from the beginning.  Whoops.  However, I know that I can make friends anywhere.  I know that my true friends will be my friends no matter where any of us live.  I also know that more important than anything else is being with DH.  There is something amazing about being 'us' in this way that it is when you live with that person.  There is huge comfort in it all, this feeling that coming 'home' is really where ever the 2 of you are.  
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  • Button5807Button5807
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mentioned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4ecee12a-580b-40df-be0d-bf2bd98e1421Post:73b83e52-2d04-4064-b6e1-c205b7045f66">Re: Have I mentioned...</a>:
    [QUOTE]There is something amazing about being 'us' in this way that it is when you live with that person.  There is huge comfort in it all, this feeling that coming 'home' is really where ever the 2 of you are.  
    Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

    Amen, you're very poetic when you're not knifing bebes ;-)
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Mutley - good point. I was thinking "I want to be home for such-and-such date" - and realized by "home" I meant with bf, not necessarily where I pay my mortgage!

    I told him that he is "home" to me... So yes, I'll be moving away from my friends and this city, but I'll be going "home". And away from this crazy traffic. And THAT has to count for something. :)
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  • emmyrooemmyroo member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh my goodness girls, you are making me tear up!  I cannot wait until I can move to FI's city.  It's about the size of my suburban city, but with a much stronger small, historic town feel.  I totally agree that "home" is starting to be wherever I am with FI and I can't wait until we have that home all to ourselves (i.e. buy a house/get an apartment together)
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    yay Paint!!!!!  I have no good advice to give but YAYYYYYYYYYY!

    good luck!!!
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  • backwerdsfishbackwerdsfish
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mentioned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4ecee12a-580b-40df-be0d-bf2bd98e1421Post:1e191af6-87fe-465b-a84e-29820c0d1e3c">Have I mentioned...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm being a bit of an AW here but I can't help it... Have I mentioned that tomorrow morning my house is officially listed with a realtor? And there's probably an open house NEXT SUNDAY?? 
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    Doesn't mean it will sell...........
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Kat - YAY!!! :) Thanks.

    And Backwerd - you're just a ray of sunshine aren't you? :)  I know the housing market probably isn't real great in Indiana, but I live in an area where we don't even use the word "recovery" - our market never tanked. Average days on market in my neighborhood is currently 63 or so - and that includes one or two dogs that have been waiting for months under contract to close because of weird contingencies.  So you're right - there's no guarantee my house will sell right away and I know it won't sell next Sunday because of an open house. But it is highly probable that it will sell in the next 90 days. Maybe a little longer if I hold out for a better price, but eh... there are trade offs to waiting. But thanks for the "reality" check...
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mentioned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4ecee12a-580b-40df-be0d-bf2bd98e1421Post:225efd45-d634-45d9-be76-9231bd8ef875">Re: Have I mentioned...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Have I mentioned... : Doesn't mean it will sell...........
    Posted by backwerdsfish[/QUOTE]

    You aren't even the real backwards fish but nice try. 
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    Bless your heart.
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  • bajedivabajediva member
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    edited December 2011
    erm...before ms. fish disturbed the equilibrium, you gals were making me feel pretty good about this whole business of completely altering the course of one's life for love. although one could say that the altering started *with* the love.

    i am VERY happy for you, Mz. Paintl!!! and i completely concur with this notion of 'home'. i lived in the tri-state area for the past 5 years & now am back home(?) in Barbados & as much as i love this place, & loved city life, 'home' happens when we're together in either of these places or his current HQ in san-fran. couldn't have put it better:
    [QUOTE] There is something amazing about being 'us' in this way that it is when you live with that person.  There is huge comfort in it all, this feeling that coming 'home' is really where ever the 2 of you are.  
    Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]
    i know you gals gave me some great advice which helped me from being filled with dread at the thought of being separated longer because of my new job, but i won't be surprised if i high-tail it outta there at the 1-year mark.
     
    meanwhile, i'll channel my energies into being souped for *you*, paintgirl!
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  • notquiteblushingnotquiteblushing member
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    edited December 2011
    At the risk of sounding super cheesy, home is where your heart is.  Good luck selling your house and on the next adventure!
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies! :) With any luck, the fish is swimming on to another pond...

    In any case, I finished ALL of my projects today! Tomorrow the place needs a quick clean and it's ready to go!
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