Gifting the bridal party?

Cortney1982 · January 2012

So I had no clue until I read on this board about the bride giving her bridal party gifts? Is this customary? What kind of gift is given? My sister is going to be my MOH, her daughter who is 9 a junior bridesmaid, and her other daughter who will be 6 the flower girl.

mollyehren · January 2012

Two general rules:
1. Shop like you where buying them a birthday gift.
2. If it is used for YOUR wedding or says anything about bridesmaid on it...it is not an appropriate gift

kateguess22 · January 2012

Yes it is customary to give your bridal party gifts. Neclaces are a popular option. One friend have her ladies white gold chains from a nice jewellery store. My best friend last year gave us a neclace that wasn't too expensive but very nice with a big gift basket full of odds and ends that she got on sale- nice pampering stuff like a pretty washcloth, bubble bath, picture frames, etc.

sparent2010 · January 2012

Yes, it is customary to give wedding party members gifts. It is because they have spent a considerable amount of time and money on your day.

Like Molly said you should shop for them like it is their birthday or Christmas. You can look for items they would enjoy and use.

Note: Wedding jewelry is not really a gift as you are asking them to wear it to the wedding.

kateguess22 · January 2012

Agree with PP but to be clear- most etiquette dictates that you do not give jewellery that you expect them to wear during the ceremony however most of my friends have given jewellery to their bridesmaids and said that you do not need to wear it during the ceremony if you don't want to- and we usually did because we liked it so much and liked to match each other. It's a contentious issue on The Knot but in my area it seems like all brides give some type of jewellery to their bridal party.

achiduck · January 2012

Yes, you really need to do something to thank your wedding party for the money and effort they've made for you.

It doesn't have to be an extravagant gift, but something thoughtful that they will like.

JGreenfan2000 · January 2012

I got each of my girls a nice purse and ill be putting day of items in the bag like a coat hanger with there name on it with sugar scrub and maybe a few other items

jmneuman · January 2012

I'm having my future brother-in-law make all of the girls a custom made pen. I'll be putting them in a hand made bag, along with a small silver high heel ornament and a bottle of nail polish fitting to each girl. Luckily they all like these things, but for younger girls maybe you could buy them some costume jewelry or a toy they would like?

Olivia0686 · January 2012

I am getting my ladies a tote bag embroidered with their name. Then I am going to put some stuff in them like, nail polish, lip gloss, mascara, a magazine and some other little items. Almost like a day of emergency kit.

funandfreckles · January 2012

I'm planning on doing a jewellery clutch in a cute fabric, and a nice piece of jewellery, which they won't be required to wear.

KMGuiliano2012 · January 2012

I purchased my bridal party-bridesmaids and MOH-personalized everyday tote bags (theknot), tshirts to wear the morning of (VistaPrint) and I am making them personalized wine glasses.

kmschwartzkopf · January 2012

I have got a necklace and or earrings (meant to be worn at the wedding) from every wedding I was a bridesmaid in. I don't think it's inappropriate to give them the wedding jewelry as their gift. I would say that try to make sure it's something they can wear again because I did get a brown pearl (not real) necklace and earrings that I will probably never wear again but she thought it went with the bridesmaid's dresses (even though it really didnt). I do think if you are doing any jewelry, the jewelry should not be all that you give them.

For our bridesmaids I am giving them a nice necklace and yes it's to wear at the wedding but its a necklace from the limited that I already own and love, plus the girls are wearing a total of four different dress options, so matching necklaces will tie their look together. But I also bought them each a mid-sized cooler tote from 31 which are awesome. My wedding is next month in michigan so it hopefully it will be snowy and we want to get outdoor pictures so another gift I got them are matching zebra print rain boots to wear for the outdoor pictures. Again a gift for the day of but something they should all be able to use again. I will be filling the totes with small stuff too. For our guys, we bought them all hoody sweatshirts for their favorite athletic team. My fiance is known for his hoodies and so we thought it was cute because it reflects him but also it's personalized for each groomsman.

Its customary to buy the gifts because it's your thank you for being part of your big day and dishing out the money to participate.

amyg718 · January 2012

all bridesmaids already have really nice jewelry so i'm giving them ugg slippers. they're a nice gift and i know they will actually use them!

mrslucento · January 2012

Yes, gifting items to your bridesmaids, flowergirls, etc is customary. Some ideas for the little girls would be a new doll with a pretty dress on or other such toy that they like. For you MoH; you could use my idea a cashmere shawl that she could wear at the wedding if she's chilly but she wouldn't have to. Then she could also wear anytime she's cold. You can buy it in her fave color or a contrasting color to your wedding colors or whatever. I picked out three different but similar dresses all in the same designer's shade of Ruby and then asked my maids to select green or silver for their shawls.

berardibranday · January 2012

I am giving my bridesmaids a monogramed tote bag and then inside the tote bag they will find a bathrobe, a friendship frame, a hand painted wine glass, a bottle of wine, bath and body works stuff and a necklace individualized for each girl. It doesn't have to be super expensive just something acknowledges what they did for you. I spent the most on my sister, shes my MOH, and I think in total on her I spent $80

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