Diamonds are a scam!

specialk84 · April 2011

We went to pick out wedding bands last night. I couldn't make up my mind between a solid band or a band with diamonds. Then I saw the prices.

The solid band is afforable and classy looking. The diamond ones (at least the ones in our budget) are so thin and tiny, and the diamonds look like itty bitty specks. I came to the conclusion that if I wanted a diamond band, I needed to go all out. We're getting the plain band, and maybe using the money we would have spent on the diamond band to make the diamond in my e-ring bigger.

Y I Oughta · April 2011

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[QUOTE]This is a P&R, but: I don't wear diamonds (my e-ring is all sapphire), for a couple of reasons; that marketing campaign is one of them. More importantly, <strong>I don't find diamonds all that pretty, so they aren't worth the exorbitant price to me. I like colored stones! I don't mind when other people have diamonds, they just aren't for me. The center stone in my e-ring is pretty, and rare, and unique, and cost less than half of what a diamond of the same size would have cost.
</strong>Posted by arwo[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

I really think the diamond is like the white wedding dress and valentines day. Cleverly crafted, very outdated ways to make a person spend money on something they don't need.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : And there was a huge fuss about it at the time, because it was a catalogue piece, and not designed especially for her. I think it was the first time that the British public knew the exact cost of a royal (or soon-to-be royal)'s engagement ring.
Posted by rhonwynv[/QUOTE]

Yep!

Nina0528 · April 2011

It may be a cleverly crafted marketing plan but I really don't care. I like my diamond ring. It's what I wanted and what makes me happy. I don't judge people who don't want diamonds because it's such a personal choice.

I do, however, strongly dislike people who get all judgy and think they're better for not having diamonds (not that anyone on this thread has).

anna.oskar · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : Ditto. I really think the diamond is like the white wedding dress and valentines day. Cleverly crafted, very outdated ways to make a person spend money on something they don't need.
Posted by Y I Oughta[/QUOTE]

I don't know if Valentine's is the same. I think some people need a special day dedicated to making sure your significant other knows how much you love them. In a perfect world, people would remember to flaunt their love every day. But they don't. And i think that's another reason we have so many divorces.

OBX2011 · April 2011

Very interesting AATB & Rhon.

I love sapphires...one it's my birthstone but blue is alsomy favorite color so I have always had a love for them.

My mom has a huge 14 carat amethyst ring that my great-Aunt gave her. I have no idea how old this thing is but it has been passed down the family for generations. It's massive and could really hurt someone....I'm too scared to wear and would feel like I was Miss Monopoly or something, lol

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

Omg, OBX - I totally want to see a pic of that amethyst ring! BAZINGA!

Nina - I know what you mean about the "judgy" non-diamond engagement ring wearers. I've never seen a girl post here about it, but I've heard the sentiment IRL before. Here, most people just say that diamonds aren't their preference, which is totally fine. I mean, really - who cares?

NuggetBrain · April 2011

I *heart* my diamond. But I also *heart* amethysts which are pretty much my favorite stone ever. I fully admit though, that I'm such a sucker for advertising that when the idea of a colored gemstone came up in our engagement discussions my first thought was always "ZOMG NO. If I'm not wearing a diamond how will people know it's an engagement ring?!?"

OBX2011 · April 2011

I will totally get a pic AATB...it's a monster and I always joke with her that if anyone tries to steal her purse or something, she could just knock em out with her ring.

I shall dub it "The Purple People Beater" lol

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

An aunt of mine has a 15 carat tanzanite pendant she wears on a slider around her neck. It's the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen in my damn life and it's HUGE. And it's so dark, it almost looks like a sapphire. UGH. WANT.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

Koda:

One of our groomsmen bought this ring for his fiance and I was gushing over it when they came for our wedding. It's a "fancy" yellow diamond. Another one of my girlfriends told me she wants this exact ring, except she wants a pink sapphire in the middle.

Blueyed228 · April 2011

I love my diamond and it really bothers me when people justify the fact that they dont have one with "OMG DIAMONDS ARE SUUUUCH A WASTE OF MONEYYYY!"

Its fine if its not your style, but no need to bash the girls who do have one. Not getting a diamond to be "unique" is so common now that I think actually having a diamond e-ring is the "unique" thing.

I had a friend of a friend tell me when I first got engaged "OMG I cant believe he would waste that kind of money on something so trivial like a ring". It really pissed me off and took away from my excitement.

A ring is a ring, I dont think any style or stone is "better" than the other. And I dont get why its always a competition with people.

OBX2011 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I love my diamond and it really bothers me when people justify the fact that they dont have one with "OMG DIAMONDS ARE SUUUUCH A WASTE OF MONEYYYY!" Its fine if its not your style, but no need to bash the girls who do have one. Not getting a diamond to be "unique" is so common now that I think actually having a diamond e-ring is the "unique" thing. <strong>I had a friend of a friend tell me when I first got engaged "OMG I cant believe he would waste that kind of money on something so trivial like a ring".</strong> It really pissed me off and took away from my excitement. A ring is a ring, I dont think any style or stone is "better" than the other. And I dont get why its always a competition with people.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Curious if said friend is enganged or married?

I would be pissed too :(

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I love my diamond and it really bothers me when people justify the fact that they dont have one with "OMG DIAMONDS ARE SUUUUCH A WASTE OF MONEYYYY!" Its fine if its not your style, but no need to bash the girls who do have one. Not getting a diamond to be "unique" is so common now that I think actually having a diamond e-ring is the "unique" thing. <strong>I had a friend of a friend tell me when I first got engaged "OMG I cant believe he would waste that kind of money on something so trivial like a ring". </strong> It really pissed me off and took away from my excitement. A ring is a ring, I dont think any style or stone is "better" than the other. And I dont get why its always a competition with people.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

<div>Did you slap her? Please tell me you slapped her.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

I did have a girl in our circle of friends tell me upon seeing my ring that it was "too big," or that she "would never need a ring that huge." My ring is a diamond split shank with an even one carat solitare - it is on the "larger" side, but it's not by any means "huge." Her saying that to me, especially in the tone that she used, kinda made me feel like crap.

Blueyed228 · April 2011

She was not engaged but really wanted to be.

I just think rings are a personal choice and no-ones business to judge.

I feel the same way about dresses, wedding styles, etc.

Just because its not your style, doesnt make it wrong.

Blueyed228 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : Yeah, there's a big difference in saying "your ring is too big" and<u><strong> "your ring is too big for me"</strong></u> imo.
Posted by rhonwynv[/QUOTE]

I dont see how saying "Your ring is too big for me" is any different than saying "Your ring it too small for me".

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : Yeah, there's a big difference in saying "your ring is too big" and "your ring is too big for me" imo.
Posted by rhonwynv[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree. FI kept apologizing for my diamond not being bigger, but I don't want a huge one. Maybe a little bigger, but not giant. Within the first week I had it, I must have woken up with six or seven scrapes on my face. I tend to flail at night, and kept whacking myself in the face. Much larger, and I would be pretty dinged up.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

I just think remarking on the size of one's ring, sometimes - can be weird. Like "oh it's SO BIG" or "wow, it's small," it can both be taken to be a little condescending.

Why can you just say "oh, your ring is lovely!" When I look at my ring, that's what I'm thinking. "It's beautiful," and not "mothafucka, can't even see where the Titanic hit it bitch!"

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : ENVY! My costume piece is put to shame for the lovely piece of plastic that it is. I would love a right hand ring like your friends. Very beautiful. <strong>ETA- I'm not saying it's a right hand ring because it's yellow, I'm saying I already have a ering so I can't have another.</strong>
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

Me too!

I'd like a bunch of right hand rings though... lol

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

So well said, koda

I never, ever cried at a wedding until I was MOH for my sister. I was a flucking mess! I was really worried I wouldn't be able to make it through my own

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]So well said, koda :) I never, ever cried at a wedding until I was MOH for my sister. I was a flucking mess! I was really worried I wouldn't be able to make it through my own :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>I've only been to one wedding where I didn't cry, and that's because I was trying so hard not to laugh. It was then-bf's ex's wedding, and it was full of ridiculousness. I'm not a bitch, though, and I did everything in my power not to bust up. I succeeded, at least until we got in the car to drive to the reception,</div><div>
</div><div>Otherwise, I'm guaraneed to cry at a wedding. I've been trying to make it more ladylike, but I haven't had the greatest luck with that.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : I've only been to one wedding where I didn't cry, and that's because I was trying so hard not to laugh. It was then-bf's ex's wedding, and it was full of ridiculousness. I'm not a bitch, though, and I did everything in my power not to bust up. I succeeded, at least until we got in the car to drive to the reception, Otherwise, I'm guaraneed to cry at a wedding. I've been trying to make it more ladylike, but I haven't had the greatest luck with that.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Well, now I just have to hear what was so hilarious about this wedding!

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : Well, now I just have to hear what was so hilarious about this wedding!
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>Warning: this will sound bitchy.</div><div>
</div><div>The bride spent a few weeks before the wedding making sure everyone knew how fancy and sophisticated the wedding was going to be. She went a little bridezilla on everyone, trying to convince us that tuxedos and evening gowns were in order, even though the ceremony was at 11 am. Most people showed up in jeans or basketball shorts. I was accused of crashing the wedding, even though my name was included on the invitation.</div><div>
</div><div>The BMs looked miserable the whole time, and one of them had the (very loud) hiccups. The bride kept glaring at her. The groom laughed through the whole thing and make jokes during his vows. His mother scolded him. The bride's tiara kept slipping off the back of her head. The minister sneezed a big nasty one, and the bride looked like she was going to barf.</div><div>
</div><div>The "super-fancy" reception was catered by KFC and had moonshine at the cash bar.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm all for having weddings within your budget, but don't bill it as a formal occasion when it isn't.</div>

OutOfTheBlue612 · April 2011

Fun fact. Diamonds are not forever. The reaction from diamond to graphite is thermodynamically spontaneous. However, the kinetics of the spontaneous process are so slow that it's not noticeable. As in, on the order of a few million years (which, actually isn't that long on a planetary time scale). /chem nerdiness

That said, I love my diamond e-ring. I also love all my other jewelry. It's pretty and sparkly and makes me happy. There are things I love about diamonds and things I love about other gemstones as well.

Also, it is pretty easy to sell a diamond for about what you paid for it. As long as you bought the diamond from a jeweler/broker and not from a chain store. And as long as you accept that fact that the ring as a whole isn't going to sell for what you paid most likely.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · April 2011

specialk - if you're a bitch, I'm a bitch. I'd laugh at that wedding. In fact, I had a healthy chuckle just now

KFC? Fo' reals?

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]specialk - if you're a bitch, I'm a bitch. I'd laugh at that wedding. In fact, I had a healthy chuckle just now :) KFC? Fo' reals?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>KFC and MOONSHINE. Don't forget about the tuxedos and evening gowns she demanded at noon.</div><div>
</div><div>I like KFC, and I like evening gowns. They just don't go together.</div>

OutOfTheBlue612 · April 2011

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[QUOTE] I like KFC, and I like evening gowns. They just don't go together.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Well then, my after prom party was all kinds of messed up. ;)

missy68 · April 2011

I would have loved some moonshine at my wedding. Peach flavored, please.

specialk84 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamonds are a scam! : Well then, my after prom party was all kinds of messed up. ;)
Posted by OutOfTheBlue612[/QUOTE]

<div>You know you were supposed to go to Waffle House, right? </div><div>
</div><div>Kidding. We went to Taco Bell after my prom.</div>

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