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Unity Volcano (only sort of E related)

I really want a unity volcano -

Like a science fair volcano where FI and I pour vinegar together and there's a big pretty erruption and it envelops the tiny village we've constructed at the bottom (maybe even a tiny Jurassic Park - the world is our oyster at this point).

FI and I really love building things and doing projects together, and when I brought this idea up to him, he got really excited and started drawing up blueprints. I think it's going to be fun. He's an ecologist, so science gets him excited. I'm an English teacher, so Jurassic Park gets me excited. This feels like a perfect marriage in unity ceremony form.

My question is this - how can I discreetly present the volcano, do the ceremony, and have it carted off again? We don't have a venue yet, but we're looking at a backyard or a park. Something open and grassy.

Any ideas?
Also, how do I keep my FI from wanting to make it 6 feet tall? He's already trying to figure out how to make tiny electric fences.
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Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related)

  • I don't get it. You want to celebrate your marriage by erupting a volcano that destroys a small village? That seems kind of opposite, no? And a bit juvenile.

    And why does being an English teacher mean Jurassic Park excites you?
  • I'm really not sure how you can discreetly present a volcano in your ceremony....but it sounds like it has the potential to be really messy. (Getting on your dress/his clothes).
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  • I don't get it, it seems like it would make a huge mess.
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  • this was the first thing that popped into my mind

    http://youtu.be/O4KMk6T5mQU
  • dflintdflint member
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    [QUOTE]I don't get it. You want to celebrate your marriage by erupting a volcano that destroys a small village? That seems kind of opposite, no? And a bit juvenile. And why does being an English teacher mean Jurassic Park excites you?
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    Jurassic Park is a good book, and I've used it in classes before


    As for the mess, we're not talking about a towering inferno
    and we have lab coats

    Our wedding is super casual, and we wanted something fun for our unity ceremony
  • LizzieyounceLizzieyounce member
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    edited June 2012
    I think that this is just about the wierdest thing I've seen on these boards...

    That said, I second Sesh...celebrating your marriage by erupting a volcano and destroying a miniature village is just, weird.

    All I can see is this:



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    [QUOTE]this was the first thing that popped into my mind <a href="http://youtu.be/O4KMk6T5mQU" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/O4KMk6T5mQU</a>
    Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]

    Same here and as a wedding guest I would hate to be sitting on the front row and get covered in my nice clothes.
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  • dflintdflint member
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    [QUOTE]this was the first thing that popped into my mind <a href="http://youtu.be/O4KMk6T5mQU" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/O4KMk6T5mQU</a>
    Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]

    That looks like an air gun stuffed with mud :O
  • um, i think that sounds AWESOME! I would be thriled to see a unity volcano at a wedding. rock on.
  • dflintdflint member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : Same here and as a wedding guest I would hate to be sitting on the front row and get covered in my nice clothes.
    Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

    I think you guys are picturing something way more messy and terrible than a science fair volcano.
    Haven't you ever made one before?
  • sorry i realize you were asking for advice on how to do it, not its level of awesomeness. I think you could just have it on a small table with wheels to the side of you while you do the vows, then either wheel it between`
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : I think you guys are picturing something way more messy and terrible than a science fair volcano. <strong>Haven't you ever made one before?</strong>
    Posted by dflint[/QUOTE]
    Can't say that I have. <div>I just don't see the unity in destroying a village....Or in the fact that when you combine what you are pouring it erupts. </div><div>It almost symbolizes the opposite IMO.</div>
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  • heb557heb557 member
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    I think it seems like a bit much for a wedding. BUT it's not my wedding, it's yours and your FI's and no one knows you better then you. So if you both like it, go for it! 
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  • ... continued....

    you or walk over to it. Id keep it towards the end of the ceremony in case it gets too messy. and probably closer to 2' tall... not 6'....
  • edited June 2012
    I still don't understand how this is a "unity" anything. Just because it combines your interests? So the whole "destruction and despair" aspect that comes along with erupting volcanoes doesn't seem weird to you in relation to a wedding?

    And what if something goes wrong, and it ends up splattering over everything?
  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    edited June 2012
    As a guest, I would find this very confusing and strange.  Also, creating an erupting volcano and small village in the weeks before your wedding sounds like a lot of work.  I'm a month out right now and I can't imagine taking on a project like that.

    As for being discreet?  I don't think that is really possible.  Did you say you are going to be wearing LAB COATS?  Interesting.
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  • I'm sorry I just don't see the beauty in symbolizing destruction at a wedding.
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  • I mean, your FI is a scientist, so I would defer to him if you were going to make something like this.

    I get what you're talking about with a small eruption, but to get any kind of significant "lava" flow (to destroy your tiny village), you're going to have to put a LOT of materials in there, and any time you have a lot of materials, you increase your chances for a bigger mess.
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  • dflintdflint member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unity-volcano-only-sort-of-e-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f7b8cd15-9721-4da9-818f-7512da24ee7aPost:26e9afe5-bd69-49d7-80f9-c101cf279e80">Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I still don't understand how this is a "unity" anything. Just because it combines your interests? So the whole "destruction and despair" aspect that comes along with erupting volcanoes doesn't seem weird to you in relation to a wedding? And what if something goes wrong, and it ends up splattering over everything?
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    One of the fun parts about building it together would be that we can spend some time making a few test models and try out different measurements

    baking soda and vinegar doesn't tend to combine in an unexpected volitile way - it's very controlled.

    and it's something fun that we want to build together - isn't that more unifying than ordering sand online?
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    [QUOTE]As a guest, I would find this very confusing and strange.  Also, creating an erupting volcano and small village in the weeks before your wedding sounds like a lot of work.  I'm a month out right now and I can't imagine taking on a project like that. 
    Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

    This too, it would just be one more thing to get done and there's already so much to do.
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  • Follow the symbolism here.  When mixed together, you become volatile and destroy something you love.  I'm not a fan.
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    [QUOTE]Follow the symbolism here.  When mixed together, you become volatile and destroy something you love.  I'm not a fan.
    Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

    This point seems completely lost on OP. Or she's just ignoring it.
  • dflintdflint member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : This point seems completely lost on OP. Or she's just ignoring it.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    Not ignoring it - just having a hard time trying to decide how to explain that I just don't see it.

    Maybe it's the idea of the "destroyed" village that's giving you that impression or the idea of a volcano at all. My wedding is small and super casual, and I don't think my small selection of  guests will think twice about the "symbolism" of a science fair volcano.

    We've always got some little science project set up in our kitchen, and this is very "us"
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : This point seems completely lost on OP. Or she's just ignoring it.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    perhaps she just doesn't agree. Ok, maybe the tiny village isn't the best idea but I dont see why people can't get more creative than pouring colored sand or lighting a candle. Fire destroys things too.... why is the whole 'unity' thing ok with something as dangerous as FIRE?! (end sarcasm here)
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    [QUOTE]Follow the symbolism here.  When mixed together, you become volatile and destroy something you love.  I'm not a fan.
    Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

    This, and it's just going to be one big WTF moment for your guests.  I just think your guests will be all 'why are you wasting our time with some cheap science fair project when we could be dancing, drinking, eating, and having fun?' 

    I guess I just don't see how destruction = unification.
  • edited June 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unity-volcano-only-sort-of-e-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f7b8cd15-9721-4da9-818f-7512da24ee7aPost:286fc18e-baae-4d13-aade-6173509fb3b6">Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : perhaps she just doesn't agree. Ok, maybe the tiny village isn't the best idea but I dont see why people can't get more creative than pouring colored sand or lighting a candle. Fire destroys things too.... why is the whole 'unity' thing ok with something as dangerous as FIRE?! (end sarcasm here)
    Posted by gattamelata[/QUOTE]

    Pretty sure the fire in the candles isn't being used to burn down a tiny village below it.
  • dflintdflint member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : perhaps she just doesn't agree. Ok, maybe the tiny village isn't the best idea but I dont see why people can't get more creative than pouring colored sand or lighting a candle. Fire destroys things too.... why is the whole 'unity' thing ok with something as dangerous as FIRE?! (end sarcasm here)
    Posted by gattamelata[/QUOTE]

    I'm totally up to other suggestions, too. We love little science projects, but volcanoes seem to horrify a few people on here.

    FI also liked the idea of little plastic dinosaurs - as far as the village is concerned
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : Pretty sure the fire in the candles isn't being used to burn down a tiny village below it.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
    This. FFS.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unity Volcano (only sort of E related) : Not ignoring it - just having a hard time trying to decide how to explain that I just don't see it. Maybe it's the idea of the "destroyed" village that's giving you that impression or the idea of a volcano at all. My wedding is small and super casual, and I don't think my small selection of  guests will think twice about the "symbolism" of a science fair volcano.<strong> We've always got some little science project set up in our kitchen, and this is very "us"</strong>
    Posted by dflint[/QUOTE]

    <div>There are ways to incorporate your love for science without building and blowing up a volcano (trust me).</div><div>
    </div><div>Here's the deal, dude.  If this is "you" and your guests will think it's cute, you gotta do it big, right?  That means big volcano, dry ice to give it that "smoky, about to erupt" look, and food coloring to really make that lava look deadly.  Again, all these things you add for effect are going to make for huge mess potential.</div>
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  • What about your venue?  I would see how they feel first and work from there.
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