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Help! FI is overly "thrifty"

bbakerrdbbakerrd
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We're having a destination wedding.  We'll be staying the night at the hotel where our reception is taking place.  I want to have a town car drive us from the church to the reception.  FI wants to have his brother drive us in his rental car (niece riding shotgun)  I can't imagine having friends and family wave to us as we walk out or the church and leave in a rental car.  It's mortifying and really takes away from the romance.  I can get a town car for $150 and we can afford it.  Any thought or suggestions?
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Re: Help! FI is overly "thrifty"

  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    Can you rent a luxury car (like a town car) and let his brother drive it?  Is there a reason he wants his brother to drive you two away, or is it totally the money?  I know there are agencies where you can rent fancy, special cars (not sure if there's one near you), but they do come at a price.  They might be as much as renting the car and driver.  Can you price everything out and show your FI where you have it fit into your budget to afford a car and driver? 

    I'm not sure what's so mortifying about leaving in a rental car. Lots of brides here leave in the same cars they drive to work every day.  It's still transportation.  My sister and BIL left in BIL's Honda, and it got them home just fine.  Sure, it would be really fun and cool to have a special car for the night.  But sometimes it just doesn't work that way.  You and your FI need to talk honestly about what each of your expectations are on this and come up with a compromise. 
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  • bbakerrdbbakerrd
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    There's no special reason he wants his brother to drive .....other than to save money.  We're very comfortable (not rich) financially.  We've dated for 2 years and only recently have I noticed how frugal he is.  I guess what worries me more is that he doesn't want to spend the money for a small thing that is important to me.  I'm 42 and this is our first mariage.  I've been saving money for my wedding years and I don't see why we shouldn't have the small things that are important to me.  

     I'm a little scared about what's going to happen with his "thriftiness" after we're married.  We do need to discuss this. Yikes!
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited February 2012

    Agreed that the longer-term issue is the more important one.

    FWIW, we walked from our reception site to the hotel. (2 blocks - I was not paying for a car for that.) H's friends bought garish feather boas to decorate us, and they tied cans to strings and tied them to his ankles for the walk back. It was the best going-away decoration ever. :)

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