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TheBaysideBride
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Does anyone regret NOT having a bachelorette party?
I would love the married ladies' thoughts on this one - between work, wedding planning and the 6 weddings we have around the time of ours, my head is spinning from planning. My shower is in April, wedding is in August and I just really, truly don't care about a bachelorette party. I spend my 20s living in Manhattan and have zero interest in getting a table at a club, or doing anything like that. my best friends were originally talking about a weekend away, but even that seems a bit much considering they have kids and my wedding is a fairly expensive trip for them.
Do you think I'll regret not having a BP?
Do you think I'll regret not having a BP?
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Re: Does anyone regret NOT having a bachelorette party?
Maybe you could request a more low-key night? While of course (as you know) you aren't supposed to plan the bach party, I personally see nothing wrong with tossing some ideas into the mix, like a movie night or dinner or bowling. Or even a trip to a nearby museum or what ever you have in your area (I have no idea what part of NY you're in lol).
And it doesn't even have to be a bach party. I mean, if you're busy now before the wedding, you can always just have a girls night at some point after the wedding.
I think the point of a bach party has altered. It used to be a night of drunken debauchery with activites that will soon be "forbidden" before you were chained down. At least, that's how they were always marketed as. But now, most of my married friends still go out with out their spouses. Some of them even like going out to bars and clubs with their spouses.
I think the point I'm trying to make is... if you want a night out with the girls (and/or guys) then even if you don't have a bach party and regret it, you can still partake in a fun night out after you're married. So, what ever you decide, forget regret.
I wouldn't decline a bp if I were you. Just tell whoever is planning it that you don't want to go bar hopping. use the opportunity to do something that you enjoy with your friends that you know your FI Will not enjoy. That way its something you won't be as likely to do when you're married, and it will be special. It doesn't have to be a bar or strippers. Example: say you enjoy a band that your FI can't stand, so you go see them in concert with your friends. Bachelorette parties are just excuses to go out with your friends without your FI. Your BP could even be a night of bowling.
[QUOTE]I kinda didn't have one by way of being deathly ill and unable to eat or drink that night. It was aweful, and I feel guilty about it to this day because my friend worked so hard on it.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]
<div>Pele, I will SO take you out for a belated BP!</div>
[QUOTE]Most of the ones I've attended have been at a restaurant or in someone's home. They usually involve drinking and girl bonding time. Heck, for my SIL's bachelorette party, she didn't want much of anything. So, my sister & I had her over at my house, ordered in Chinese food, drank wine, and rented "Magic Mike". That's all she really wanted. You deserve a "night off" to enjoy time with your girlfriends. Take it. The bachelorette party doens't have to be more than that.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
I really hope my girlfriends do something more like this rather than a wild night out. Your SIL's party sounds right up my alley except substitute Indian for Chinese food. I just want quality time with my girls over anything fancy or crazy. And wine. Always wine.
My husband didn't even have a bachelor party. He went golfing in Bermuda with all the guys, but that was it. He said that was plenty.
EDIT: We married in Bermuda so we were all there anyway. He didn't fly with the guys out there or something.
June 2012 Bride!
[QUOTE]I would love the married ladies' thoughts on this one - between work, wedding planning and the 6 weddings we have around the time of ours, my head is spinning from planning. My shower is in April, wedding is in August and I just really, truly don't care about a bachelorette party. I spend my 20s living in Manhattan and have zero interest in getting a table at a club, or doing anything like that. my best friends were originally talking about a weekend away, but even that seems a bit much considering they have kids and my wedding is a fairly expensive trip for them. Do you think I'll regret not having a BP?
Posted by TheBaysideBride[/QUOTE]
I'm not married yet, but I am not having a bar hopping BP. Maybe something like an afternoon with mani/pedis and lunch? My MOH and BMs are ordering pizza and sodas (none of us drink) and we are watching movies all night at my MOH's house.
Heehee you're the best!! I can't complain too much about the food poisoning right before the wedding because it made me lose like 10 lbs in three days, but I still get wistful about missing out. Clinging to a barstool and trying somehow to look less grey while swigging peptol bismol isn't exactly a riit.
On the plus side, I am now very well acquianted with the tiles in my bathroom. We are very close... I feel like a part of me will always be with them :p.
These are the dearest women in my life, and I'm really, really looking forward to it. Because my MOH lives out of state, the blessing time will be held in the livingroom of what will be our first home together ... which only adds to the "specialness."