Our guest list is at 179, so it's not exactly a small wedding, but we still know lots of people who aren't on the guest list. A group of church ladies want to throw me a shower, but only 4 couples from church are invited to the wedding. I'm already over budget, so spending another $2000 to invite 20 more guests is a not really worth just getting to have a shower. I've tried to politely decline the offer, telling them I don't have room on the guest list to invite extras, and one lady told me to just invite them! How do I handle this? Do I just suck it up because in the scheme of the wedding, I won't even notice an extra 20 people, and in the scheme of life, I won't really notice another $2000? Or do I continue to make it clear that I really don't want a shower? My entire WP is all over the country (CA, WI, VA, MI, FL, and GA), so we weren't really expecting or wanting any pre-wedding parties. To us, the wedding ceremony and reception are enough celebration! We've also only been in this town for about a year, so it's not like we've been a part of this church community since we were babies...we've met all these people in the past year! I'm sure they mean well, but it's just an added amount of stress on top of planning this wedding without any local BMs or family!