Hello fellow brides,
My fiance and I have had to cut our guest list from 160 to 100. After consulting with the families, we finalized the list and sent out Save The Dates. About 2 weeks later, his mom insisted we add her cousins to the list. Since we had cut all of my own cousins, we decided we couldn't add anyone, plus it would put us over budget and we'd already agreed to add people for her at an earlier planning stage. Well, this upset her very much and she spent weeks crying and begging and even had my fiance's dad call him to beg. She even hung up on my fiance in anger. As a couple, we decided we had to stick to our guns and say no. Eventually, we allowed her to cut 2 people from the list to make room.
The entire thing was very upsetting for us both and quite frankly, incredibly childish on his mother's end. So while we were visiting a few weeks later, I asked her to help me understand why it was so important. She said it was because he had said no to her and she didn't like that. We had a good talk and I thought that was it. Until I got an email from her saying that she expects that her children will never say no to her. So I replied with an email, approved by my fiance, reiterating our position and apologizing for upsetting her. Well, now she is offended by my email.
Ladies, I feel like I'm taking the blame for a decision we made together as a couple. I tried to explain that to her, but it didn't take. My fiance is mad because he is stuck in the middle but I am upset that he won't defend me. In a screaming match, I told him that as my husband, he will have to take my side. That's marrige--backing each other up no matter what. So he's mad, I'm mad and MIL is mad.
Help?!