1 month old

cdeguide74 · July 2010

Well, I guess considering that most girls "plan" their wedding or deam about their wedding the since they were little girls. If she doesn't want a screaming baby at her reception then it's her choice to say no. After all, she is the one paying for the $15,000 and up reception!!!!

So no, miss msmart ass, the world's not going to end but it's themost important day of her life and she doesn't want the potential of it being ruined by screaming cying babies! Her wedding...her choice.

quotequeen · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:ce5bceaf-5ba9-4f15-ace6-c790eaafab26">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 1 month old : WOW... they're really anti-baby in Chicago.
Posted by KellyLovesJames[/QUOTE]

Hey now. Babies are perfectly welcome at my wedding.

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b2c870a5-59e8-4b5b-96f9-a46642758e9b">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I guess considering that most girls "plan" their wedding or deam about their wedding the since they were little girls. If she doesn't want a screaming baby at her reception then it's her choice to say no. After all, she is the one paying for the $15,000 and up reception!!!! So no, miss msmart ass, the world's not going to end but it's themost important day of her life and she doesn't want the potential of it being ruined by screaming cying babies! Her wedding...her choice.
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

I actually TOTALLY agree that in many cases, formal weddings are NOT appropriate for children. But newborns- those who are still breast feeding, are generally considered the exception to this rule.

quotequeen · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b2c870a5-59e8-4b5b-96f9-a46642758e9b">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I guess considering that most girls "plan" their wedding or deam about their wedding the since they were little girls. If she doesn't want a screaming baby at her reception then it's her choice to say no. After all, she is the one paying for the $15,000 and up reception!!!! So no, miss msmart ass, the world's not going to end but it's themost important day of her life and she doesn't want the potential of it being ruined by screaming cying babies! Her wedding...her choice.
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

And it's her MOH's choice to not attend the wedding.

cdeguide74 · July 2010

Not even close FutureMrsTR

KellyLovesJames · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:6b4529e8-55d9-4ad0-bbda-94057f51f847">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 1 month old : Hey now. Babies are perfectly welcome at my wedding.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

At least someone in Chicago is normal! :)

salt78 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b2c870a5-59e8-4b5b-96f9-a46642758e9b">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I guess considering that most girls "plan" their wedding or deam about their wedding the since they were little girls.
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

<div>This would be a very sad statistic if it were true. </div>

KellyLovesJames · July 2010

The ONLY thing I'm going to agree with is NOT having a "play pen" at the wedding or reception.

Not to be a selfish bridezilla, but I wouldn't want that in my pictures. Don't baby's have an infant seat he/she can sit in?

If anything... you could ask your sister to skip the play pen.

salt78 · July 2010

Also..."most important day of her life"?

Also sad.

It's her sister for chrissake and she is concerned about her not "performing duties" but rather taking care of her new niece or nephew. That just reeks of spoiled princess.

FutureMrsTR · July 2010

There are quite a few things in this thread that are making me sad, Salt.

Knittibell · July 2010

LMAO! I think the playpen thing was a sarcastic comment, I mean, who wants to schlep a playpen while also sporting an uncomfortable dress and heels? Those damn baby carriers are heavy enough as it is, plus she's going to be managing the Bride's flowers, make up bag, train, veil, bridal diapers, etc...

Maybe she can find one of those baby slings and be-dazzle it, so as to match the formality of the affair?

salt78 · July 2010

And then maybe a matching bedazzled muzzle just in case the little darling starts to cry.

wadingmoose · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:aabb2451-246f-45ca-b9a0-59b68862ef54">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]NO WAY are you being selfish or immature! It's your day! The fact that it's not just 1 baby, it's SEVERAL babies that would be attending. Your wedding is a formal affair, nor a romper room. It's one evening...a reception is what, 6 hours, tops. If your friends are that stuck on not separating themselves from their children then that's their choice but for them to expect you to be okay with babies and playppens layong all over your reception floor is rude. It's your day, it's about you and your new husband celebrating your marriage. A reception hall is not a place for infants!
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

See, that's your opinion. Where I'm from a wedding is a family event and it would be inexcusably rude to not invite children.

Potato, potahhhhto.

cdeguide74 · July 2010

Salt78: you shouldn't pass judgement just becasue she doesn't want a baby at her wedding!!! It has nothing to do with selfish, spolied, princess anything. It has to do with what she wants for her day. You're married, you had what you wanted...didn't you?

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

cdeguide, you just logged in to defend the OP, didn't you? Are you her friend? Are you just posting under another name, reese? You're certainly not the MOH, we know that much.

Mrs.B6302007 · July 2010

cde: what's with the name calling?

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

Also, cde, nowhere did it say her wedding was a black tie affair. Way to assume. You know what they say about people who assume.

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:3f52f47f-028d-4ff6-a732-09aba04ef427">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]And then maybe a matching bedazzled muzzle just in case the little darling starts to cry.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

I was thinking the same thing! OR, some sort of clever camoflauge, so that if said baby does start to fuss, they can throw a blanket over it, and then no one will LOOK at the baby, when they're supposed to be looking at the bride until their eyes bleed.

KellyLovesJames · July 2010

I'm still pulling for the baby in a suit-shirt at this wedding:

wadingmoose · July 2010

Weddings r srs bisniz.

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b0060289-54a2-4606-b55b-343ea82617f5">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Salt78: you shouldn't pass judgement just becasue she doesn't want a baby at her wedding!!! It has nothing to do with selfish, spolied, princess anything. It has to do with what she wants for her day. You're married, you had what you wanted...didn't you?
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

It kind of does, actually. There is a HUGE difference between not wanting kids at your wedding, and not wanting your newborn neice/nephew. Seriously.

Knittibell · July 2010

LMAO Kelly- that's adorable! Kind of K.D Lang, though- if she has a girl. Not that there's anything wrong with that...

cdeguide74 · July 2010

Who did I name call?

Mrs.B6302007 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b2c870a5-59e8-4b5b-96f9-a46642758e9b">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I guess considering that most girls "plan" their wedding or deam about their wedding the since they were little girls. If she doesn't want a screaming baby at her reception then it's her choice to say no. After all, she is the one paying for the $15,000 and up reception!!!! So no, miss msmart ass, the world's not going to end but it's themost important day of her life and she doesn't want the potential of it being ruined by screaming cying babies! Her wedding...her choice.
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

wadingmoose · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b0060289-54a2-4606-b55b-343ea82617f5">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Salt78: you shouldn't pass judgement just becasue she doesn't want a baby at her wedding!!! It has nothing to do with selfish, spolied, princess anything. It has to do with what she wants for her day. You're married, you had what you wanted...didn't you?
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

Um. Most people who are married and mature adults managed to compromise on many things in their weddings.

Compromise. It's a great word when you're getting married.

Kristin&eric · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:c8a1fc29-b7ad-46c6-bb56-64c5676d3737">Re: 1</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, and as far as tending to the baby's needs goes, being a mom trumps MOH.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Yess 100% I am not a mom but if my MOH just had a baby I would ask her if she wanted to be in the wedding still she could always be with the baby but i would still love her to be in the wedding its her decision and her baby. But like others have said there isnt anything that the MOH or BM has to do at the wedding.

cdeguide74 · July 2010

I am also in the middle of planning my wedding so I have strong feelings on the subject. I have family members who have young infants and they've exressed to me that there's no way in hell they'd bring their baby to a wedding reception! It's one night they get to get dressed up and go out for a nice night without the baby, which is very few and far between since having them. I've been to a good 20 weddings over the last 10 years and I have only been at ONE that had small children, never one with a baby!!

reesepzor · July 2010

The invitations haven't even gone out yet for my wedding, so at this point I was undecided about babies or not at this point, I was just asking for opinions so I could figure out what I was going to do when the time came to write out the invitations.

I love children! Like I said, i'm having about 10 children under the age of 12 at my wedding! My sister did mention actually bringing her playpen, but i'm sure I could just talk to her and let her know that we can make other arrangements for him, the playpen seemed like a little much to me. I think you're right, if she's nursing at 1 month, it would be hard to expect her to leave her baby for the night, and she's family, so I think an exception can be made.

What do you think about the other bridesmaid's/Groomsman's children? There's one that's 4 months, one that's 5 months, a 11 month old, a 14 month old. Do you think that I should allow them all to bring their children too? Or is it ok for the babysitters at the hotel to attend to those children.

I sooooo didn't mean to cause a Cat fight with this post, I am just trying to do what I want, my fiance wants, my family wants, my friend wants and i'm just trying to figure out the ettiquette of the situtation.

As far as performing the duties of a maid of honor, I just meant as far as pictures, limos, speeches, dinner at the head table. I guess once speeches & dinner is over, it wouldn't be a big deal and she could spend time with the baby after that. Not that she's going to be waiting on me hand and foot! Lol! I wouldn't ever expect anyone to do that!

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 1 : Yess 100% I am not a mom but if my MOH just had a baby I would ask her if she wanted to be in the wedding still she could always be with the baby but i would still love her to be in the wedding its her decision and her baby. But like others have said there isnt anything that the MOH or BM has to do at the wedding.
Posted by Kristin&eric[/QUOTE]

Your constant verbal diarrhea makes me sad/scared that you're a nurse. I can only hope you type this way because you are so busy that you don't have time to read back what you type before you post. But in that case, you probably shouldn't be knotting anyway, since you're so busy.

salt78 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-babies-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e670e5d-eed8-4704-a7dc-079daeadd2ccPost:b0060289-54a2-4606-b55b-343ea82617f5">Re: 1 month old</a>:
[QUOTE]Salt78: you shouldn't pass judgement just becasue she doesn't want a baby at her wedding!!! It has nothing to do with selfish, spolied, princess anything. It has to do with what she wants for her day. You're married, you had what you wanted...didn't you?
Posted by cdeguide74[/QUOTE]

<div>I sure did. I had the perfect sparkle magic wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>Complete with children. </div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

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