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OBX2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:228efe69-5964-421f-82d8-c5cd01d30318">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : I didn't know you had to live in the land of "puppies and rainbows" to know how to have a general respect towards others. Also, if you get annoyed by hearing the same questions from "newbies" then why are you still on here?
Posted by mikkiwin8[/QUOTE]

To prevent them from doing rude & tacky things such as having a HM registry.

Would you rather get advice from a bride who is in the same position as you, having never planned a wedding before? I'm sure that would go over real well.

Also, I really do enjoy helping people with their weddings. I am very active on my local board and like to ensure that my girls aren't doing anything silly....like HM registries for example ;)

ETA: and everything Hoboken said too

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:8e613b13-bbaa-4d94-8997-7a9cbe6aaf10">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : To prevent them from doing rude & tacky things such as having a HM registry. <strong>Would you rather get advice from a bride who is in the same position as you, having never planned a wedding before?</strong> I'm sure that would go over real well. Also, I really do enjoy helping people with their weddings. I am very active on my local board and like to ensure that my girls aren't doing anything silly....like HM registries for example ;) ETA: and everything Hoboken said too
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

Exactly. I know when I have questions on child birth, I ask my friends who have actually had babies, not those who haven't. Same goes for weddings, or anything really. If I want advice/opinions/feedback on something, I'm going to ask someone who's already done it. We're planning a trip to San Fran soon, and instead of asking my friends about it who've never been there, I went on Trip Advisor and asked locals who live there. Makes sense, no?

It's also frustrating when we post a logical reason why something like HM registries are considered tacky (see my first post in this thread) to have posters come in with the "Well I'm doing it anyway and my family doesn't care and who are you to say it's rude?" Well we are telling you what etiquette says. If you don't want the opinions, then why ask?

OBX2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:8c9fc77d-fcab-4bac-b2f2-03fb1d79931d">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : This thread is so amusing, but this post in particular gets me rolling. No one knows MY guests (friends & family) better than me, same for you & any other bride. It's fine if that is how your guests would think of a honeymoon registry/money dance/money box/money tree/whatever, you know them better than me. Not everyone's guest list will be that way & it is wrong for you to assume that!!!! I can tell you right now my family would not care if I did any or all of the above!! Dollar dances are more of a wedding tradition where I am from, so if they are unheard of where you are from then that's fine, but you shouldn't judge. The wedding mentality around here is that the couple is spending money to throw a party to start their life off together & you are helping them get off on the right foot so they can make a home together (whether they already live together or not is immaterial). Wedding traditions vary greatly depending on many factors, like area, age, history, ethnicity... When it comes down to it, it's really only my close family/friends' opinion I care about, so maybe you should stop feeling so self-important here because it sounds like YOU'RE the one who is being judgmental at other peoples' weddings, even people you "care about." My family would not hold back their opinions for the sake of my feelings, as you said (this is MY family I'm talking about, not everyone's), because usually when you truly care about someone you do the opposite- you tell them how you feel. My family won't judge me on something as silly as my wedding decisions, either. So it gives you no right to do so!! Don't overgeneralize on an online forum where you have NO IDEA where someone comes from, what their family is like, what their traditions are, etc. Like I said- you know your group & that is fine & dandy. It is just not right for you to judge based off only your experience & nothing else. And for the record, I had a destination wedding & did not register for anything or expect gifts at all... the pleasure of my family's company was enough for me. I could care less whether other people have registries- I give cash at weddings/showers/birthdays as a rule because it is the most useful all around. I'll not be coming back to this thread because I like to hang around only one thread where people are fun & not-judgmental- someone posted this link on there as an example of how rude people can be when they are trying to "coach" others on etiquette. We all got a good laugh! Y'all have a great week!
Posted by themrsJRD[/QUOTE]

What is your deal here? I really don't think Summer was judging at all, but more giving her opinion on HM registries, just like the rest of us. If anyone sounds judgmental here, that would be you, clearly. Absolutely no one was trying to "coach" anyone on etiquette here....or did you miss that part? Clearly, you did.

You sound very childish with your last statement. You sure told us!!

Pats head ;)

OBX2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:4a29ca63-9619-48e4-8d5a-9c5e7da6c3a3">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : Exactly. I know when I have questions on child birth, I ask my friends who have actually had babies, not those who haven't. Same goes for weddings, or anything really. If I want advice/opinions/feedback on something, I'm going to ask someone who's already done it. We're planning a trip to San Fran soon, and instead of asking my friends about it who've never been there, I went on Trip Advisor and asked locals who live there. Makes sense, no? It's also frustrating when we post a logical reason why something like HM registries are considered tacky (see my first post in this thread) to have posters come in with the "Well I'm doing it anyway and my family doesn't care and who are you to say it's rude?" Well we are telling you what etiquette says. If you don't want the opinions, then why ask?
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

I completely agree. It's really sad that the Vegas board thinks that we are "so hateful" on the board....they really have no clue, do they?

<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread</a>

As a Mod myself, I would never allow such behaviors as Vegas does on that board.

Summer2011Bride · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:c45a0dd9-7127-4293-a08f-0844afdd3ecb">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : What is your deal here? I really don't think Summer was judging at all, but more giving her opinion on HM registries, just like the rest of us. If anyone sounds judgmental here, that would be you, clearly. Absolutely no one was trying to "coach" anyone on etiquette here....or did you miss that part? Clearly, you did. You sound very childish with your last statement. You sure told us!! Pats head ;)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

Ha I thought the same thing. The part of my post she quoted was where I was saying your friends and family are nice and don't want to hurt your feelings. I didn't know saying someone is nice qualifies as judging, but if so, I wouldn't mind being judged more often!

OBX2011 · July 2012

ETA: Nevermind now, the damn link is showing up correctly.

Snippylynn · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:87dea60a-92bb-47f3-aebe-41d507fca219">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : I completely agree. It's really sad that the Vegas board thinks that we are "so hateful" on the board....they really have no clue, do they? <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread</a> As a Mod myself, I would never allow such behaviors as Vegas does on that board.
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
What? Why? That's just stupid. If you are not allowing your board members to speak freely, that is just ridiculous. <div>
</div><div>Personally, I hate HM registries. They ask for something that is not necessary, in a way that isn't nice. The people responding to that thread on the Vegas board caused me a headache from all the eye rolling I did. Their backs must be sore from patting themselves on how super special they are.</div>

OBX2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:1b25a585-7a02-4550-8bca-94992d273ef0">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : What? Why? That's just stupid. If you are not allowing your board members to speak freely, that is just ridiculous. Personally, I hate HM registries. They ask for something that is not necessary, in a way that isn't nice. The people responding to that thread on the Vegas board caused me a headache from all the eye rolling I did. Their backs must be sore from patting themselves on how super special they are.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

It's one thing for my board members to speak freely but as a Mod, I don't think it's appropriate to fuel the fire. Just my personal opinion.

Didn't you know....they are special snowflakes ;)

vegasgroom · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:87dea60a-92bb-47f3-aebe-41d507fca219">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : I completely agree. It's really sad that the Vegas board thinks that we are "so hateful" on the board....they really have no clue, do they? <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_opinions-about-another-thread</a> As a Mod myself, I would never allow such behaviors as Vegas does on that board.
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

What 'behaviors' are you suggesting I allow on the Vegas board that you would never permit? Clearly rudeness and personal attacks are not what you're referring to because that is extremely rare on the Vegas board while it's a staple of the rest of TK. This thread is a perfect example; someone who probably just got engaged likely had an idea put in her head by a honeymoon resort, thought it sounded great and asked for some simple advice, then received a bunch of negative responses instead of simple education on why some might view it as a bad idea and then let her make her own decisions.

OBX2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_register-for-honeymoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:d7d9e87a-0c5c-47b7-b7fb-7a1f322db28dPost:e365fd24-5972-4b3e-8178-56b85815e0c3">Re: NO longer need info-delete</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NO longer need info-delete : <strong>What 'behaviors' are you suggesting I allow on the Vegas board that you would never permit?</strong> Clearly rudeness and personal attacks are not what you're referring to because <strong>that is extremely rare on the Vegas board </strong>while it's a staple of the rest of TK. This thread is a perfect example; someone who probably just got engaged likely had an idea put in her head by a honeymoon resort, thought it sounded great and asked for some simple advice, then received a bunch of negative responses <strong>instead of simple education on why some might view it as a bad idea and then let her make her own decisions.
</strong>Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

It's one thing for the posters to make comments, but as a Mod, you shouldn't be fueling the fires. Just my opinion. If you don't agree, yay for you!

Apparently, it's not, or you wouldn't be here defending the actions of your own board. Your own board used the term "hateful people" so don't act like you aren't aware of what I'm saying here Vegas.

Did you even read the thread? She was given numerous reasons as to why some of her guests may find it tacky and or rude. It's not like we all came in with burning pitchforks telling her horrible of a person she is for even thinking of something like this. Ummmmm.....no. We told her we thought it was tacky and then clearly listed the reasoning behind it.

Look, I'm not going back n forth here for a tit for tat kinda thing. Myself as well as many others think that HM registries are rude, tacky and downright deceitful. However, you and I both know that it is downright childish to post something and then run off to your local board to chat it up with everyone else. I mean seriously, starting a new thread just to talk smack? Grow up.

theponz512 · August 2012

I understand why some people want to create a honeymoon registry, really i do. But there is definitely a better way to go about doing this than creating a registry.

I saw a friend of mine register on honeyfund and honeymoonwishes. I was newly engaged, and had never heard of this before so i checked it out. they charge a service fee, that is either charged up front for your guest, or taken out of the gift they give. EX: $100 gift will either costs your guests a bout 115 or only give you about 85 to spend.

If you truly don't need anything for the house, or want anything, then register for a few items you wouldn't mind receiving. If there are only a few items on the list, the guests will get the hint that you would prefer cash or something, and will likely get that.

It is just plain rude to register for money, and that is not likely to change.

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