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is a cash bar really that bad?

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Re: is a cash bar really that bad?

  • Having done some research on Kas, I really do think it will be nerdy and geeked out. :)

    Beatles, your mom told me where she liked it, all right. AND she appreciated the porn links, I will have you know.
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  • i'm just wondering; has the OP actually said anything further after asking the advice? just curious! she probably got her answer and left!
  • Ah, it all starts to make sense now. The theme of your internet stalking is SEX. Creeper! ;)



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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : I've seen this referenced a couple of times and wondered about it.  Is it an elephant like in Moulin Rouge or what?
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

    I think she can describe it better than I can. It's in her bio too I think. I know she won't brag about it being creative and fun, but I can, and I will. ;)



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : I've seen this referenced a couple of times and wondered about it.  Is it an elephant like in Moulin Rouge or what?
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : I think she can describe it better than I can. It's in her bio too I think. I know she won't brag about it being creative and fun, but I can, and I will. ;)
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  • YOU CAUGHT THE TATER!!! :)

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  • Wow! Everyone seems to get up in arms at cash bars. I haven seen that before on posts. I have personally been to many weddings throughout my life, and I can honestly say that it is a rare occasion that it is a totally open bar, at least in my experience. A lot of times I see a free cocktail hour, or maybe free wine bottles on tables and free champagne toasts. For the most part, though I see some sort of cash bar and I am not at all offended. My FI and I were lucky enough that our venue automatically includes open bar in their price packages and they were pretty reasonable. But, I wouldn't be at all offended to go to a wedding where there was a cash bar. In fact, we had relatives in our family get extremely mad that we were opting to spend the money on open bar! We are getting some financial help, but FI and I are paying for most of it on our own. More than one relative (not related to one another) commented that we should not waste our money on open bar. We had to fight people to tell them it was included and we were happy about that! So, I don't see anything wrong with that, if that's what you need to do. Remember, the people you invite to your wedding are close family and friends and they will understand.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : That is awesome!  I can't really tell how big it is....you're getting married inside it so I assume it's like a building inside? Or something?  Is it open to the public?  I'm intrigued.
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

    Her name is Lucy, and she is the main attraction of Margate, NJ on the Jersey shore. We can fit about 85 people inside - it is a building, and you get in through these little spiral staircases in her legs. She was built in the 1880s to try to attract tourists away from Atlantic City (mostly unsuccessfully) and she actually predates the Moulin Rouge elephant by about five years.

    Here's a plan and section:
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    [QUOTE]YOU CAUGHT THE TATER!!! :) I miss you Beats!
    Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

    Hahaha! Miss you too!

    Dude, I miss the KNOT. I haven't been here in forever, it feels like. You are rocking the horns btw, Fish. That cupholder is pretty impressive as well.



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : I hope your guests are prepared for the awesomeness that your wedding will ensure.
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

    Hahaha thanks. :)
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited October 2010
    I just wasted 30 minutes of my life reading 6 pages.

    I've never been to a wedding with an open bar. 
    But since joining this board, I KNOW it's wrong... I guess??

    So, I'm totally gonna bitch out the next bride in retaliation.

    Oh, and calling someone's actions stupid =/= calling them stupid.

    ETA: I bartended a limited bar that was free.
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  • Never been to an open bar.  I also would personally be offended and annoyed if my guests were annoyed I had a cash bar.  Why do I need to pay for them to get drunk?  They do not need to drink.  IT's nice to pay for part or even all I guess, but I do not consider it a necessity.
  • edited October 2010
    I've been to 7 weddings with open bar (including my own), and 1 with a cash bar. The cash bar was a big surprise, and with no ATM on-site I couldn't even have a glass of wine with dinner (2-3 glasses of wine is usually my limit at weddings). Between that and it taking 4 hours for dinner to be served, it was the most boring wedding ever. 



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
  • The most recent cash bar wedding I went to was at a golf course/country club.  The bar could take debit/credit cards, so I survived.
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  • I've actually never been to a wedding with a cash bar, and I'd be somewhat surprised and unprepared if I encountered one. I wouldn't rain down the hell fires of the Etiquette board if I did, though. I'd deal, and probably drink soda.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : ^That is rude. Staying just for dinner because they aren't paying for alcohol? WOW. ^Saying what some else says in bullshit? Also rude. Even if it is true. ^ Calling a hostess tacky because she isn't hosting alcohol. C'mon now. Three posts in this thread alone that are very rude. I'm not saying to be all puppies and rainbows but cyber-bullying is defintely not proper etiquette.
    Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]
    None of this was cyber bullying. People use these words WAY too much and it lessens the the real meaning of cyber bullying. You obviously have some type of vendetta against this board. You might want to stick to your club board where it's warm and fuzzy. I would even go as far as to say you are the one being rube on in this thread.

    That being said, a cash bar would not bother me. I'd rather have a cash bar than no bar.
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  • ricksangricksang member
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    edited October 2010
    Oh shut your face. You have no idea what cyber bullying is. I am entitled to my opinion. You are a pansy.

    Since you DDed, my opinion was just proven.

    Yes Sarah she DDed her reponse to me. :P
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    [QUOTE]Oh shut your face. You have no idea what cyber bullying is. I am entitled to my opinion. You are a pansy.
    Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

    Did somebody DD?
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  • Yes I did. I decided you weren't worth it because I don't want to argue about this anymore. I know what cyber-bullying is. You don't know me so you don't know what I know.

    I'm not a pansy, but I know what arguements to give up on. And you definitely aren't worth it.

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  • If I am not worth it, why did you come back? You are cute. I wish I could pat your head.

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  • And this is what I mean by being rude. You called me a pansy when I did absouletely nothing to you besides tell you to drop a subject that I already apologized for.

    I think that proves my point that you are being a bully.

    006

  • Dude, Casey, cyberbullying is when your friend's mom makes up a pretend teenage boy who falls in love with you on the internet and then tells you they hate you, so you kill yourself. Or it's streaming your roommate's hookup on the internet. Or taking racy photos of somebody and then texting them to the entire school.

    Don't try to equate a few people disagreeing about whether cash bars are tacky with the real, serious, horrible issues that are actually happening in the world. Calling today's thread cyberbullying is cheapening all of the tragic real cyberbullying that happens.
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  • Wait, am I worth it or not? Make up your mind, woman!  Fine, I am a cyber bully. I am the biggest cyber bullying on the knot. Everyone knows it. They did not want to say anything. It's good you pointed it out. Now it's out in the open.
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    [QUOTE]JenGin- This has nothing to do with you or Sarah. Banana is a big girl, she can defend herself.
    Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]


    You make my head hurt. Real bad. And I'm originally from Illinois...Southern Illinois to be exact, so please don't rope me into your "it's the norm, so it's okay here" It may be the norm, but it's still not proper etiquette.
  • It'as odd that she is calling me a bully when I actually don't mind cash bars.
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    [QUOTE]It'as odd that she is calling me a bully when I actually don't mind cash bars.
    Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

    Take your bullying elsewhere! I cry every day about the things you say.
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  • I think they are super tacky. Don't serve alcohol at all if you can't afford it- cash bars are just...well, imho, they go in the same category as e-vites, non-rsvp'ing guests, and guests wearing white to the wedding. 
  • No Sarah, I like to bring the pain. :P
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  • I didnt say you were a "cyber bully".. I said you were bullying me! which you all are now.  This isn't even about the cash bar anymore. Its about you guys bringing up stuff that has already been dropped. I just don't get why you can't leave it alone and let it go.

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