My mom is literally taking over my wedding plans! I haven't even been engaged for two whole weeks yet.
We're Chinese and its custom to invite couples where you attend their wedding. Lack of better terms, they attended other peoples wedding in the past and now it's their turn to attend my wedding. I don't believe in this custom and feel as if my wedding is a day where I invitied individuals I care about to spend my special day with.
I'm frustrated and angry as the wedding will comprise mostly of my moms friends or people she attended weddings in the past. She didn't take into account any of my friends or my fiances guest list. The music will be in another ethnic language and it's what my mom wants! The money given, will however be used to pay for the wedding. I really feel like its a wedding for her and her friends.
I explained to her this is not what I want. I do not want a lot of people at my wedding, especially a lot of people I do not know. She's really stubborn and not understanding and refuses to listen. Her take on it is this is how it should be done.
This wedding has turned out to be a business rather than a celebration. It's about inviting who will give you more money rather than who you truly want there on your special day.
I'm at the point where I feel like she crushed my dreams. I just feel like calling this wedding off and just eloping.
I'm not sure what to do. Did any of you have this problem?