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Drunkenly discussed babies with BF

Too hungover to work right now. Ughh. II promise, I'll start calling my leads by 10:30. Good thing my boss is off today :-)

Seriously though, I feel terrrrible. Went on a cruise around NYC last night and there was a 3 hour open bar. The boat SUCKED - it was too crowded, hot (the inside room was supposed to have A/C but it wasn't working), the buffet food looked and smelled terrible (good think I had eaten something beforehand), and there was pretty much no place to sit. Thus, BF and I decided to get our money's worth with the open bar Smile

I downed about 6 vodka-cranberries, and BF drank at least that many bud lights. Later that night, we started talking about a good friend of mine who's wife is supposed to be induced today, it's their first baby! Of course, I said something like "I can't wait til weeeee have a baby..." Which is something that we joke about all time. He replied with "I know, but we can't rush into anything." We got a little more serious then, and I said I know I shouldn't joke about babies all the time, but it was something I liked thinking about. 

He told me he was happy that I thought about having babies with him, and so I asked him if he ever though of it. He said, "I've definitely thought of it. I've even thought about like - once we move into a bigger apartment, we'll have enough room...maybe then...." I raised my eyebrows at him, and then he said something like "But the problem is money - I need to make more of it. Babies are expensive and I want to do this right."

It's funny, but we talk/joke about having kids pretty often, though we never really discuss marriage. I think it's because we both know that that would come first (a few months ago we talked about it, and he said he would absolutely want to be married before having any kids. I totally agree), and so it's easier to joke around about kids because we know that's not the next step for us. Whereas "joking" about marriage/engagement would definitely have a more serious undertone. 

I know that as far as engagement goes, BF will likely wait until he has a better, more stable job. He doesn't make very much now, because he's working for a start-up. I am totally happy with waiting - truth be told - I'm NOT ready to be engaged like, today. Despite that, I Love Love Love hearing him confirm that he thinks about our future, kids, etc. 

Anyways, just wanted to share my drunken baby-discussion with you all!

Happy Thursday!
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Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF

  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    edited July 2012
    I would say tl;dr, but for some reason, I read the whole post. Sigh, first world problems.

  • Hubs and I had a our first real discussion 4 days after we got married.  We aren't trying now, but if it were to happen then we be ready for it.  But I am also happy to see he and I were on the same page.  We were sober tho.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drunkenly-discussed-babies-with-bf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0d6febb-6631-4da5-a0b5-e08e3f08abc6Post:e5230aeb-267d-4829-9f25-b67a0ea27a72">Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hubs and I had a our first real discussion 4 days after we got married.  We aren't trying now, but if it were to happen then we be ready for it.  But I am also happy to see he and I were on the same page.  We were sober tho.
    Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yep, being sober definitely would have made the conversation more important. Anyways, it IS nice to know you're somewhat on the same page! </div>
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  • edited July 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drunkenly-discussed-babies-with-bf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0d6febb-6631-4da5-a0b5-e08e3f08abc6Post:fe2d9f15-63d2-49f9-9db2-40d33f219f2c">Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF</a>:
    [QUOTE]When my H and I talked about seriously having babies after closing on the house, I got knocked up.  Neither of us were drunk though.
    Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ooh, I'll keep that in mind and try to keep my mouth shut a little more...</div>
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  • BF and I have the drunk baby talk like once a month.  Does that mean I need to get KTFU now?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drunkenly-discussed-babies-with-bf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0d6febb-6631-4da5-a0b5-e08e3f08abc6Post:6aad2d78-4c2a-42b3-a071-253c63ad72fc">Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF</a>:
    [QUOTE]BF and I have the drunk baby talk like once a month.  Does that mean I need to get KTFU now?
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]
    yup. get on that. . . . literally. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drunkenly-discussed-babies-with-bf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0d6febb-6631-4da5-a0b5-e08e3f08abc6Post:6aad2d78-4c2a-42b3-a071-253c63ad72fc">Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF</a>:
    [QUOTE]BF and I have the drunk baby talk like once a month.  Does that mean I need to get KTFU now?
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    <div>Hahahaaa. So glad I'm not the only one.</div>
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drunkenly-discussed-babies-with-bf?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0d6febb-6631-4da5-a0b5-e08e3f08abc6Post:8f7d0453-ddbf-441b-8249-1a4c9379e477">Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Drunkenly discussed babies with BF : Hahahaaa. So glad I'm not the only one.
    Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

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