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He's Catholic.....I'm Not...

hayerinhayerin
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My fiance and I have been together for four years (and still have 18 months until the wedding!), but I am getting very nervous about the precana classes, I have NO idea what to expect.

He was born and raised Catholic, I however was not. I am a Presbyterian, but have no problem with getting married in the Catholic church or raising our children Catholic, but do not plan on becoming Catholic myself.

Does anyone have any advice, hints or just words of wisdom for me? I have NO idea what to expect with having a catholic wedding...
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Re: He's Catholic.....I'm Not...

  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    dont be nervous abotu pre-cana.  most of the classes today, it seems, arent really that faith based.  many just cover topics like finances, communication, reconciliing your differences and the like.  they will not pressure you to convert, and honestly, i dont think you should unless you truly want to. 

    teh fact that you have no issues with teh catholic wedding or raising your kids catholic will certainly make the whole process smoother.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hi hayerin!
    I am Catholic and my husband is Presbyterian.  We had a Catholic wedding, which meant that he had to go through EE with me.  He didn't mind it at all.  Many of the couples were of mixed Christian beliefs, and as Calypso mentioned, most of EE content is on communication and relationship building.
    FWIW, my mother is Catholic and my father is Presbyterian.  My father never converted, but he has attended Catholic Mass for over thirty years, and we kids were raised as Catholics.  It can work as long as the couple is on the same page about the way the kids are taught and raised within a church.
    Good luck!
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PPs, it sounds like you guys are on the same page about your wedding and the role of religion in your life together. You'll be fine. Be open to building your relationship through the Pre-Cana classes.

    Best of luck! If you have any questions about what you hear, about the faith, or about the ceremony part, we are all happy to help!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    There have been a lot of threads on this. It is definitely not something to fret about. Just be honest with the priest and you will be just fine. He is not going to try to embarass you or anything like that, he just wants to make sure you are set up for a great marriage.
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  • MopsieBMopsieB member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom is Catholic, my dad was Presbytarian (he's nothing now)...they got married in a community church in 1966 and are still married today. The only thing they had to do was get married again in the Catholic Church to make it official. Back then, there was no pre cana or anything we have now, and it worked out. Don't be nervous- we're all God's children in the end. No one man-made religion is better than the next. In my opinion, the important thing is that you love each other and God.
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