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Timing is everything! Grrr.,...
My bf and I are not engaged but are going to get married sometime in the future. The question is when?! At first I was all excited because I wanted a nice yet cheap wedding which looks like about $7,000. Not cheap enough considering we have a kid and I need to go back to school. So I came up with the idea of doing an intimate close friends and family ceromony at a small chapel for about $1200 for everything. Welll If I'm married my husband will be part of my fafsa and other financial aid paperwork which means I wont get as much money as I would if I was 'single' GRRRR! I need to be smart but it has been my dream to get married in the year 2013. I just want to be his wife already! Help!
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Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...
Like I mentioned before, you are not engaged yet and depending on when he does actually propose, a 2013 wedding may or may not be feasible. Also, what matters more to you, the legal status of your relationship/having a wedding or potentially saving a significant amount of money on school? That has to be your decision. If you are already building a life and healthy relationship together now, then getting married in 2013 will not necessary change that and perhaps you wait until you two are more financially stable.
[QUOTE]My bf and I are not engaged but are going to get married sometime in the future. The question is when?! At first I was all excited because I wanted a nice yet cheap wedding which looks like about $7,000. Not cheap enough considering we have a kid and I need to go back to school. So I came up with the idea of doing an intimate close friends and family ceromony at a small chapel for about $1200 for everything. Welll If I'm married my husband will be part of my fafsa and other financial aid paperwork which means I wont get as much money as I would if I was 'single' GRRRR! I need to be smart but it has been my dream to get married in the year 2013. I just want to be Mrs. Keegan Santos already! Help!
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
yeah. don't fret. maybe your boyfriend is just waiting for the perfect time and moment to drop the words. :)
Still here and still fabulous!
[QUOTE]Thanks you guys. We have been pre planning together and I already told him flat out that I hate long engagments yet short ones too. A year long engagment is perfect fo r us. I'm just a planner I like to know what's ahead of me. I stress like crazy at not knowing what's going on. We have a beautiful little boy that we are both madly in love with. So I just need to focus on him. My bf wants to have a nice elegant wedding but I can to celebrate in style for our 10 year anniversary. I grew up surrounded by divorce and I never thought I would ever want to get married so i would rather celebrate 10 years of happiness than go all out and possible get divorced a year later.... Sorry to sound so negative. But I think its romantic lol
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
<div>STOP PLANNING A WEDDING BEFORE YOU'RE ENGAGED.</div>
[QUOTE]umm yeah this is the not engaged yet message board if your going to hate get off
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
<div>No, you did not. Try again.</div>
Slow your roll and relax.
[QUOTE]umm yeah this is the not engaged yet message board if your going to hate get off
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
Ok, we started off being nice.....but you need to read the sticky titled <em>New? Read this first!!</em> at the top of the Not Engaged Yet board. The majority of the women on here will agree with peekabo (i.e., look at her post count, she has been here a while and knows what she is talking about).
Like I said before, slow down and actually listen to the advice we are offering. After all, you asked for it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : Ok, we started off being nice.....but you need to read the sticky titled New? Read this first!! at the top of the Not Engaged Yet board. The majority of the women on here will agree with peekabo (i.e., look at her post count, she has been here a while and knows what she is talking about). Like I said before, slow down and actually listen to the advice we are offering. After all, you asked for it.
Posted by bmo88[/QUOTE]
^This!
[QUOTE]umm yeah this is the not engaged yet message board if your going to hate get off
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
<div>Whoa whoa whoa. </div><div>
</div><div>1) There was no "hate". If you had read the sticky at the top of the page like a good newb, then you'd understand that we do not deal with pre-planners here. </div><div>
</div><div>2) You, sweetheart, can take a hike. </div>
My initial post pertained exactly to what the title of this forum is. I am "Not yet engaged" posting messages about planning a wedding on a wedding planner site whose forum subject says "Not yet engaged". If the purpose of this forum is not for people planning a wedding who are not yet engaged as the title implies, then perhaps you should change it to something else such as "Promiscuous morons that can't see past the front of their own nose" or better yet you could call it "OCD pipe dream". Either way reading the replies makes me laugh a little, and become a bit nauseous. Especially that peekaboo user, lmao, wtf are you even doing on this board then, you're second reply was completely irrelevant, and then everyone else started defending you, which makes me wonder if the Internet users of today speak their own highly incoherent and infantile language, I mean she's obviously a troll, but usually trolls are at least intelligent, that’s where their humor comes from, their wit. But I digress, it’s clear this board isn't meant for what the title is, so troll on and plan your fake weddings, I’ll go plan my REAL one now XD.
I can't wait for my fake wedding. It's going to be the best fake wedding ever.
Don't let the door hit you on the way out.
[QUOTE]My initial post pertained exactly to what the title of this forum is. I am "Not yet engaged" posting messages about planning a wedding on a wedding planner site whose forum subject says "Not yet engaged". If the purpose of this forum is not for people planning a wedding who are not yet engaged as the title implies, then perhaps you should change it to something else such as "Promiscuous morons that can't see past the front of their own nose" or better yet you could call it "OCD pipe dream". Either way reading the replies makes me laugh a little, and become a bit nauseous. Especially that peekaboo user, lmao, wtf are you even doing on this board then, you're second reply was completely irrelevant, and then everyone else started defending you, which makes me wonder if the Internet users of today speak their own highly incoherent and infantile language, I mean she's obviously a troll, but usually trolls are at least intelligent, that’s where their humor comes from, their wit. But I digress, it’s clear this board isn't meant for what the title is, so troll on and plan your fake weddings, I’ll go plan my REAL one now XD.
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
Gesh girl did you sit on something sharp earlier or are you always like this?
First, off the tittle is meant to tell that we aren't engaged yet, but are in serious relationships and might soon be engaged.
Second, off you need to do your homework before jumping into the middle of a board and yelling at regs. Seriously, get out of high school drama already.
Third, we DO NOT condon or aprove of most if any preplaning. This is due to the fact that most girls that preplan put that fake wedding before their relationships with their SOs. This causes many problems, stress over nothing, and fights; all of which can lead to the end of said relationship.
I hope you can understand our board a bit better now.
Even though I highly doubt you read any of that.
The fake wedding part doesn't apply to you obviously, but then again, why are you even on this board, it seems fairly obvious that you have a groom and your engaged. That, according to other posters, disqualifies you from this particular forum.
And Peekaboo.....your stupidity astounds me lol, would you mind explaining to me how you're going to slap me, this is the INTERNET. And unless you know how to hack theknot (which i seriously doubt for obvious reasons
[QUOTE] Either way reading the replies makes me laugh a little, and become a bit <strong>nauseous</strong>.
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]
Also, since you seem so concerned with taking everything literally, you may want to look up the bolded word. It doesn't mean what you think it means.
[QUOTE]My bf and I are not engaged but are going to get married sometime in the future. The question is when?! At first I was all excited because I wanted a nice yet cheap wedding which looks like about $7,000. Not cheap enough considering we have a kid and I need to go back to school. So I came up with the idea of doing an intimate close friends and family ceromony at a small chapel for about $1200 for everything. Welll If I'm married my husband will be part of my fafsa and other financial aid paperwork which means I wont get as much money as I would if I was 'single' GRRRR! I need to be smart but it has been my dream to get married in the year 2013. I just want to be Mrs. Keegan Santos already! Help!
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>ZOMG!!! Please go to weddingbee, they have a hive just for waitingbees!! They'll help you make the best, most romantical decision. Since divorce or a break up isn't possible when two people are so much in luuuuuuurve like you two are.
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"You're our early 20's BSC scarecrow. They cower at your maturity." - lennonkdc
Or is he your FI? I only ask because I see what looks like an engagement ring on your hand in one of his facebook photos.
</div><div>Oh, and I now know your name. And I know where you live. </div><div>
</div><div>Ahhh, the internet.</div><div>
</div><div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_timing-is-everything-grrr?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:be9953e3-60cd-49cc-af2a-df48dd21ae98Post:1a06817c-405a-44c1-a5f1-0b5a8d979cd0">Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,...</a>:
[QUOTE]Excuse me, I got the title wrong....meaning however, remains the same. The fake wedding part doesn't apply to you obviously, but then again, why are you even on this board, it seems fairly obvious that you have a groom and your engaged. That, according to other posters, disqualifies you from this particular forum. And Peekaboo.....your stupidity astounds me lol, would you mind explaining to me how you're going to slap me, this is the INTERNET. <strong>And unless you know how to hack theknot</strong> (which i seriously doubt for obvious reasons ), you won't find out where I live....do you honestly think I live in San Antonio, or Texas for that matter? I barely got through your post as my eyes began to bleed, but from what I can tell, you are extremely overdramatic, which is probably why your relationship (I assume thats what you're talking about) actually failed, not preplanning lol.
Posted by MamaSantos13[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Oh, and I didn't have to hack the knot.</div>
"You're our early 20's BSC scarecrow. They cower at your maturity." - lennonkdc
[QUOTE]Also, it was probably not the best idea to tell us your BF's full name. Or is he your FI? I only ask because I see what looks like an engagement ring on your hand in one of his facebook photos.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
Nice job Elle. I guess somebody should learn how to set better privacy settings on Facebook.....
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : Nice job Elle. I guess somebody should learn how to set better privacy settings on Facebook.....
Posted by bmo88[/QUOTE]
...or just not divulge a full name on a public forum. Jeebus, internet safety is NOT that hard.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timing is everything! Grrr.,... : ...or just not divulge a full name on a public forum. Jeebus, internet safety is NOT that hard.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
That too :) But being unsearchable on social media sites definitely helps :)