How Early is Too Early?

Re: How Early is Too Early?

• WayOhElle member

  

  March 2010

  I don't usually comment on these boards, but I can't take how rude you are being to each other. That whole etiquette thing has been in place for years, and the way people have lived has significantly changed. I am getting married May 15 and I am sending out my invitations in a week with an April 10th response date. You all think it might not take a month to track down people who have not RSVPed, but I am expecting the majority of my fiance's family to not RSVP (they have not in the past). You can call them rude, but it is just the situation. I don't want to be frantically calling 100 people trying to get their responses. I would rather have time to run into people/ email people/ make some phone calls. We all have enough to worry about as the wedding date gets closer than calling poeple that couldn't mail back a card.

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  March 2010 edited March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_early-early?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:d42a5cfe-c269-4a02-a305-612ced3e99f8Post:dce9f1b1-eac2-4879-9147-d4b8a58650af">Re: How Early is Too Early?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I don't usually comment on these boards, but I can't take how rude you are being to each other. That whole etiquette thing has been in place for years, and the way people have lived has significantly changed. I am getting married May 15 and I am sending out my invitations in a week with an April 10th response date. You all think it might not take a month to track down people who have not RSVPed, but I am expecting the majority of my fiance's family to not RSVP (they have not in the past). You can call them rude, but it is just the situation. I don't want to be frantically calling 100 people trying to get their responses. I would rather have time to run into people/ email people/ make some phone calls. We all have enough to worry about as the wedding date gets closer than calling poeple that couldn't mail back a card.
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  </div><div>It doesn't take a month to track people down.  We invited 300 people and less than 1/3 of them RSVPed.  That means I had to track down 200 people.   It took 4 days.  It isn't as hard as you are making it out to be.
  
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• janedoe1113a member

  

  March 2010

  Yea, I'm having to track down 50 people and I plan on doing it this weekend.

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• banana468 member

  

  March 2010

  Ditto.  It's just not that hard to track people down.  You have their information for the invitation. If you're updating your responses as they come in, it's rather quick work to make the phone calls - and that's even easier if parents help.

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• cynthia_k9 member

  

  March 2010

  Because your date is on a holiday you should have sent STDs
  
  My sister got married on this same weekend 3 years ago and she sent her invites at the 8 week time.  International mail is really slow, so early for those would probably be ok.
  
  Asking for an RSVP so early will either result in people saying yes that aren't sure or as everyone metioned people just saying no.
  
  I would highly recommend talking to your venue about the date they need the numbers by.  Maybe you could give them a good estimate at 5 weeks and then a final head count at 10 days?
  
  We are all stressed, but calling people names is never helpful
  

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