Yesterday I got a call from my mom so we could discuss my side of the guest list. Conversation was going well until she said my grandma is requesting I invite someone in particular to the wedding. I'm having a big issue with the request.
Several months ago I had a falling out with a cousin that I've never really gotten along with. Since that time, I chose not to communicate with her and have been doing me. Well my grandma is hinting that she wants me to invite the cousin along with her son. Here's my problem. I LOVE my grandma to pieces but I don't think I can honor this request. Here's why: during the previously mentioned falling out, we both said some choice words to each other but my cousin went WAY below the belt by 1) basically calling my FI a "broke ass" because from her point of view she thinks he can't handle paying for a wedding so he must be broke. 2) talking bad about us as a couple because we are choosing to be engaged for a long time (FN: we are waiting so that I can get more assistance with school since I am a "single mom" and we are paying for it ourselves). 3) talking badly about my dad, who is deceased.
I'm usually an easy person who tries to make things work for everyone but I have already told my mom she is NOT invited under any circumstances because I refuse to pay for someone who went that route to attend my wedding. To me it would be a slap in the face. So now I just have to figure out the best way to tell my grandma.
Am I wrong? Or should I bend to my grandma's request??
Thanks for listening
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