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Does this make sense?

PeachesKFGPeachesKFG
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I feel like I am blowing up TK lately with all my questions! I'm 120 days away and I'm down to the little details, and I am starting to get so confused. Yesterday FI told me "you're really starting to lose your mind" (in a loving/joking way, lol).

So...I hope this makes sense. For my menu, the venue says it is my responsibility to keep track of which guest is getting which meal. I have 3 meal choices (plus a vegetarian option). I have to indicate each guest's meal choice on the back of their placecard - this is no big deal for me, because my mom and I are making the placecards anyways, so we will just put a small note on the back of each placecard with the guest's meal choice.

So here's where I am confused - when I send my response cards in the invitations, should I send one card for each individual guest? Example, if I send an invitation to Mr. and Mrs. Smith, should I include 2 response cards? One for Mr. Smith and one for Mrs? I can't think of any other way to keep track of each person's meal choice. I can't just send 1 response card to Mr. and Mrs. Smith, because if they check off 1 chicken and 1 beef, I won't know who ordered the chicken and who ordered the beef. Is it strange to send more than 1 response card inside an invitation? Is that normal?

I hope this makes sense. I'm having an invitation freak-out! Who knew it would be this confusing?

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Re: Does this make sense?

  • toltolstoltols member
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    edited March 2012
    I would ask your venue how others have done this in the past.  If it's their requirement, they should be able to give you ideas.  I didn't have to do this but I would suggest the following and confirm with your venue if this is OK:
    - send 1 RSVP card that requests the number of each entree ordered
    - create 1 placecard per couple and on the back place entrees
    - the waitstaff can read the cards and then only need to ask between the couple who gets what or if they put down the wrong dish, the couple can switch

    I've seen people do the entrees different ways instead of writing notes which can look less formal:
    - colors (red = beef, yellow = chicken, blue = fish, green = veggie)
    - animal stickers (cow, chicken, fish, ?)
    - shapes ( square vs. circle vs. start vs. triangle)
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  • Vanessa630Vanessa630 member
    1000 Comments Fourth Anniversary
    edited March 2012
    I did one response card per couple and asked them to initial next to their meal choice.  Mostly everyone did this but it ended up not being too complicated because I just color coded each placecard with the meal option (and didn't really need to know who got what since there was one placecard per couple).  Therefore, some cards may have gotten 2 silver hearts but some cards may have gotten one silver heart and one gold heart.  (I ended up drawing hearts on the corner in different colors to represent each meal option)

    Good luck!!  I definitely had TONS of questions after the 3 month mark
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  • cdbishopcdbishop member
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    I think one response card, I have never seen anyone send two.  I did similar to Vanessa and said, 'please initial next to each guests meal choice'.  Most people have initialed, some haven't and I will just right on the back of their place cards 1 chicken 1 fish and they can determine who had what. 
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  • Jaridds68Jaridds68
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    edited March 2012
    For a lot of the weddings I've been to with my FI, we've only had one escort card for the two of us, and even tho there was a sticker/stamp on the back w/ our meal choice the servers still ask 'chicken?', 'steak?' before they place the meal in front of you. So even if ppl don't initial next to their meal choices it'll be ok. The servers will know based on your stamps how many of each dish to bring to that table.

    ETA: also, only one response card is necessary per invitation.
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  • Carebear62584Carebear62584 member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary
    Actually, for the first time ever we got 2 RSVP's in our invitation for a wedding we went to in November.  FI and I were confused, as were my parents, brother, cousins, and aunt who were also invited to the wedding.  We only ended up sending back 1 card per couple.  I wouldn't waste having 2 printed because I think most people will send back one.

    I will say though that we also have to indicate meal choice and our guests are having individual favor tags on their jars (also placecards) so we are just taking a guess as to who ordered what.  It's really not a big deal and they can always tell the server to switch it.  When FI and I respond to weddings we always get 1 beef and 1 chicken but never know who is eating which meal until we get there.
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  • MoonlightSilverMoonlightSilver member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 1000 Comments First Answer
    Asking people for an initial or "write your first name next to your meal choice!" would be the best bet.
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  • PeachesKFGPeachesKFG
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    Thanks all! I have a meeting with our invitation vendor tomorrow, to discuss the final wording of the invitation and response card. So this is very helpful. I think I am going to send 1 response card per invitation and have them initial next to the meal choice. Thanks!!
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