Unity Sand? Unity Candle?

Andrea.Matillano · April 2011

Is anyone doing anything like this? My mom really wants something like this incorporated into the ceremony. We are having an outdoor ceremony so the wedding planner said that we should probably stay away from candles because they are hard to light with the wind. Are there any fun or creative alternatives that anyone is planning on using?

Audrey&Austin · April 2011

We're doing a handfastening ceremony instead of sand or a candle.

naomikb · April 2011

Nope, we aren't doing any "extra" unity ceremony - just our vows.

Other things I have heard of people doing:
- wine-drinking
- coloured-water mixing
- rope tying (handfasting, as PP suggested)
- chair-tying together

ericanuzbach2011 · April 2011

We did a rose ceremony....it was perfect. your moms will also like being a part of it.

trix1223 · April 2011

I think that the whole ceremony is "the unity" thing, so more than that isn't really necessary. Our DD and SIL didn't have a unity anything, and their outdoor ceremony was beautiful. GL

kellya01 · April 2011

We're doing a unity sand ceremony. We wanted a keepsake we could put on our mantle when it's all said and done. Plus, we're going to put little trinkets signifying various points in our marriage (kids, first home together, etc) and those trinkets will go on top of the sand. It has meaning for us, so that's why we're doing it. I'd recommend that you and your FI look at the various unity ceremonies there are, and find the one the holds the most meaning for you. If you can't find one, you might consider not doing one at all, but if you're not totally sold, give yourselves some time to really consider each one. It took us about 2 months of individual and collaborative thoughts to make our choice and for it to have the most meaning for us.

lyamada · April 2011

One ritual that I came across is a Letter and Wine box. The bride and groom each write a love letter and seal it inside a box with a bottle of wine and two wine glasses during the ceremony. The box is opened by the couple on their one year anniversary. I'm personally not a huge fan of wine, but I think the love letters would be a nice way to remember exactly how you felt about each other on your wedding day.

neen71 · April 2011

If you are doing a religious christian ceremony, there is an option my daughter is using called the cord of three strands...perfect for outdoors, or if like us, you can't have candles in your venue. Can find out more about it at godsknot.com.

laurenelaine87 · April 2011

I read something nice in a magazine recently where the bride and groom gave each guest a stone (grey polished stones I think) and during the ceremony the officiant asked them all to whisper a positive thought or "well wishing" to the stone then the wedding party collected all the stones and put them in a decorative bowl. The bride's and groom's families each got one white stone (representing the bride and groom) and those went on top. Kind of cheesy, but I like the fact that all the guests get involved and it is something you can keep.

nonamae · April 2011

I love the sand idea. I think it is a great way to have something as a keepsake. A friend of mine is getting married & her FI has a son. So to incorporate him, & make him him like he is a part-they are doing a sand ceremony with 3 colors so he can put sand in also!

& check this out, it has some great ideas also.
http://weddings.about.com/cs/style/a/unityceremony.htm

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