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Re: last names

• TurtlesAllTheWayDown member

  

  March 2010

  I'm just keeping my name as-is. My last name is long (9 letters) and hard to spell, so I made the decision a LONG time ago (like in high school)  that I wouldn't be able to hyphenate, even though my FI has a really short, simple last name. I end up spelling my last name out so much that adding an "then a hyphen, then..." would be a disaster. Dropping my last name or moving it to my middle was never an option for me.
  
  For kids, if we have a girl, I'll probably pass down my middle name as her middle, and if it is a boy we'll use my last name as a middle name or second middle (FI has 2 middle names, the second being his mother's maiden name). It's a compromise we came to, because FI really does want our kids to have his last name.
  

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• Moneypenny424 member

  

  March 2010

  Like GG, I have 4 names on my SS card and am Gillian Maiden Married on my drivers license.  I go by Gillian Maiden Married everywhere.  I don't introduce myself like that or anything, but it is the way I formally sign my name, is on letterhead, etc.
  
  Both Maiden and Married are tricky to pronounce, so my name is butchered even more now than before...though honestly, the butchering of "Gillian" (like Jillian, not a hard G!) is still the most common mistake of all. 

  
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• CarlitaBD

  

  March 2010

  One of my friends dropped her last name, another friend hyphenated. I'm hyphenating too, and my FI is changing his name so that when we have kids, our family will all have the same last name (I swear he came up with it on his own since he thinks it's unfair that only women have to up their family names). If he hadn't, I still would have hyphenated.

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• Shasha3100 member

  

  March 2010

  This has been a big discussion for us. BF does not want me to take his last name because it is his birth father's name who abandoned him as a young child. He does have a strong attachment to his initials though, so he doesn't want to switch to my last name. We talked about making up a last name that started with his initial, but we didn't want some random name. As of now I think I'm just going to keep my name. It's funny though, none of the women in my family have a middle name just so we could easily take our maiden name as a middle name.

  

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• linns_e

  

  March 2010

  I was having a hard time deciding whether or not I wanted to change my last name... but I never did think of using my last name as a second middle name. I really like that idea. Thank you!

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