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Holy Rude!

shoebieshoebie member
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Wow, My friend is in a wedding this coming year and as a bridesmaids she had just gotten a piece of paper in the mail detailing everything they are to buy and pay for, for the wedding ! Can we say rude and tacky  ! (I am ok with telling the girls expenses but her list goes to far! ) These items included specific jewelry, the dress, specific shoes, a hair clip, what tanning salon to get spray tanned at and at what shade! The hair salon (what up dos are acceptable) and make up artist they must use ! And also the price of there bouquet ! I have never heard of a bridesmaid paying for her own bouquet, the bride is well off and mommy & daddy are paying for the whole thing with roughly 200 guests this is absolutely absurd to me ! Has any one ever heard of this? I told my friend I would politely step down from bridesmaids duties.
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  • lcrvariclcrvaric
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    Lady324, I feel the same exact way!  I can't even see myself befriending someone like that.  It's your wedding...why should I pay for the bouquet that YOU want me to hold for decoration?  Ugh this post just disgusts me!  Your friend should really step down!  Let us know what happens, shoebie!
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    That's terrible. I'd tell her to f*ck off and that there was no way in hell I was going to be in her wedding.
     
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    Nope that is crazy!!  I would tell the bride to go screw herself.  That sounds absurd and honestly I would not want to be friends with someone like that!  I think that would be a deal breaker for me.
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  • Faith2730Faith2730 member
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    Seriously? That's crazy. If she is telling them they need these things then she should be paying for them. She needs to get over herself!!
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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    Oh please. I'd stick that list where the sun don't shine. 

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  • cindyn9178cindyn9178 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would immediately call the bride and tell her, I can pay for my dress and that's it. No exceptions.

    ETA: - is the bride the same girl that posted about the Obese bridesmaid dresses? lol
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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_holy-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:a68fdbd8-b22c-4590-a79a-a44d47f759b6Post:7a7e32a9-ac9f-4757-acef-ec2468c8cdf3">Re: Holy Rude!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would immediately call the bride and tell her, I can pay for my dress and that's it. No exceptions. ETA: - <strong>is the bride the same girl that posted about the Obese bridesmaid dresses? lol</strong>
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    AHAHA, you read my mind. She should be glad she didn't post that on the E board.

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  • 37 Butter Knives37 Butter Knives member
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    edited December 2011
    And I thought I was borderline psycho telling my bridesmaids what shoes to wear and the exact shades of nail polish to use. (In case you're all wondering: Essie Mademoiselle on the fingers, OPI Overexposed in South Beach on the toes.) But that was the extent of my control-freakishness.

    Did this piece of correspondence look like this?
    http://diy.weddingbee.com/topic/bridesmaid-newsletter-i

    Also, "mommy and daddy" (eyeroll) may be paying for this wedding, but I'll assume it was a set amount they were providing, and the bride went over the budget. I can't imagine anyone telling the bridesmaids to pay for their bouquets, unless the bride was dumb enough to forget to budget for them. But if that were the case, the bride should pony up.
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  • sgdc2011sgdc2011 member
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    Get out while you can!
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  • GiaspoGiaspo member
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    Yes... A few years ago my friend was in a wedding and the bride did the same exact thing, sent out a letter with the demands. To make it worse, it was her second wedding and most of the BMs had already gone through the same drill once before. She's now divorced for the second time.
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  • RKPugsRKPugs
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    Yeah I felt badly asking them to buy a specific pair of shoes! This is just outrageous! I can't say that I would put up with this.
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  • shoebieshoebie member
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    She is going to try and talk to her this weekend, This is just un real she is going to have no bridal party left! As far as nail polishes she has made it clear fingers and toes must be a french manicure ahhhhh she told them that a few months ago. 
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  • buttrflyahbuttrflyah member
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    Sounds like a complete control freak.  I'd ask her where I should be sending the bills for all these demands because there is NO WAY I would be paying for any of that. 
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