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Supposed to be a surprise shower...but I know

vanessa7889vanessa7889
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So I found out that my shower is next Sunday. I kinda figured it out because I work late on Saturdays and half days on Sundays, so I knew it was going to be a Sunday. Anywho, I figured it wouldn't be tomorrow because of fathers day or the first Sunday in July because its the 4th and then after that, I'm going to be working non-stop up until the wedding so I figured out its the 27th.

I also figured out its going to be out my house and everyone will be there when I come home from work to surprise me. Well it sucks I figured it out but people haven't been very discreet telling me I should move furniture around and clean the house, or stop talking to eachother when I walk into a room etc. Plus I'm not dumb.

So my point of this whole ramble is, normally I dress kinda casual for work, its only a bakery, but I don't want to go to my shower in stained crappy clothes. Do you think I would give it away if I dressed a little nicer or do you think it will just tell everyone that I knew it was coming? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings that has been trying hard to keep it from me.
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Re: Supposed to be a surprise shower...but I know

  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_supposed-surprise-showerbut?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f4dc7313-2f0f-4c88-8958-41ef8ff80b33Post:9b2eff7a-ba1c-462c-b6be-5e94796beea2">Supposed to be a surprise shower...but I know</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you think I would give it away if I dressed a little nicer or do you think it will just tell everyone that I knew it was coming? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings that has been trying hard to keep it from me.
    Posted by vanessa7889[/QUOTE]

    Honestly, this is one of the reasons I'm iffy about surprise showers when the person isn't taken somewhere they would dress nice to.

    Yeah, it might hurt their feelings, but at the same time, it might be nice revenge on them since they <em>are</em> using your house for this shindig.
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  • blondie82784blondie82784
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    hahah u sound like me I narrowed down this wkend and then my FMIL opened her mouth and confirmed what I already thought... I really wanted to know when it was so I dont look like a mess lol
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  • vanessa7889vanessa7889
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    LOL blondie! I wanted to know too, and I really don't like surprises! I've always figured out suprises just because I don't like them. But this one was pretty easy. And then when I started mentioning things being bought off our registry I would get these sneaky little smiles.
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    Yeah, surprise showers just aren't practical.  And at your own house?  How rude.  At least you found out so you can get the place looking presentable. 
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  • Krysti21Krysti21
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    This is exactly what I don't want a surprise shower. I'd dress a little nicer. If anyone questions it, just say what a lucky coincidence it was.
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  • Kristin&ericKristin&eric
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     I woluld dress a little nicer, who wants to look like a mess at their own party?!?!?!
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  • naenay797naenay797
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    Since it is at your own house, couldn't you just change clothes after the surprise?
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  • carrieandpearlcarrieandpearl
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    Could you change your cloths before  you come home from work? Wear you regular cloths to work in, and before you leave for the day change in the bathroom.

    Have fun at the shower!
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    This is one of the reasons that I detest surprise showers.  It's rarely a surprise, and I'm of the opinion that the guest of honor should be afforded the courtesy of looking nice at a party in her honor.

    My DD was (because she takes after her mom) adamant about knowing when and where her shower was.  And it was a lovely shower.  My niece knew all about hers as well, and was there to greet the guests as they arrived. 

    I'd tell them that you've figured it out, and are so grateful that they're hosting a shower for you.

    Funny memory:  when my second child, first daughter was born, my neighbors decided to throw me a surprise shower.  At our house.  I had a 2 year old and a newborn.  And a surprise party.  At my house.  And this is a good idea because?

    Fortunately, my dear mom, from whom I inherited my discomfort with surprises, came to me and told me about it.  I can still remember her saying "I'm not sure if I should tell you this, but I think I should."  I was so thankful that she did! 

    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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