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angelajtmnangelajtmn member
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I was just curious as to how involved you are when planning your Bachelorette Party?  I thought I was supposed to give some suggestions as to what I wanted to do.  So I gave 3 options, that were fairly similiar with a few variations.  Then my maid of honor said, are you planning this?  I was a little taken back.  Then she stated something like, I guess that is not what I envisioned and I wish you would trust us to plan it.  At the same time she said, we want you to have fun and want to do something you want to do and you only get married once and if you plan it it takes the surprise out of it.  I guess I thought making a few suggestions, was not a big deal, maybe I am wrong.  Although, I am almost positive she said you need to tell us what you want to do, that is what I did.  

Thanks for letting me vent!    
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    RWS2011RWS2011 member
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    I understand that you might have some vision for how you want the event to look or feel.  And it is fine to come on here and vent a little.

    Usually the bride can offer help with the guest list and make some requests like: I want to hit the town or keep it low key or no strippers or lots of hot strippers....  But generally, your MOH and anyone from your bridal party that she enlists get to plan it.  It is supposed to be a fun event that they plan and surprise you with.  Just for perspective, some brides' attendants don't even organize a bachelorette party.  

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    wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
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    I didn't have a single ounce of say in mine and my BM's did a great job.  I think it is fine to give a general idea to them of how you'd like it to go but not any farther than that.  For instance, you could say "I'm really not a drunken partier so I'd have the most fun if we skipped the bar crawl" or something like that.  Let them do this for you, be gracious and surprised when the day comes, and have a blast.
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    goatlady12goatlady12 member
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    I told my MOH what I want.  There is nothing wrong with giving suggestions.  You do only get one bachelorette party, I really think whoever hosts it should take what you want seriously.  I was VERY insistant that there be no checklists or games once we go out to the bars. 
    I also said my preferences for my shower. 

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    saric83saric83 member
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    You should only be as involved as the host wants you to be. : )  If she asked for your suggestions, there's nothing wrong with offering them.  But then you have to let them take it from there! 
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    TheDramaStopperTheDramaStopper
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    Hi,
    Traditionally the maid of honor and wedding party plan the bachelorette party. These days, with out traditional standards for weddings there can be a lot of confusion. I see the bride is often the one who gets the backlash when her party is unorganized at plans. I hate to see the bride stuck in the middle of drama so I created a service for brides. I sit with the bride, discuss all the small and large situations in her wedding plans that are causing her stress, then solve those problems by speaking with the people that contribute to them. I advacate and speak on the Bride's behalf. Let me know if you want my help.







    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_bachelorette-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:89a79364-0a01-4cdf-b2de-3ed29ee303abPost:09aa105a-025f-4a67-94a8-b50610806b22">Bachelorette (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was just curious as to how involved you are when planning your Bachelorette Party?  I thought I was supposed to give some suggestions as to what I wanted to do.  So I gave 3 options, that were fairly similiar with a few variations.  Then my maid of honor said, are you planning this?  I was a little taken back.  Then she stated something like, I guess that is not what I envisioned and I wish you would trust us to plan it.  At the same time she said, we want you to have fun and want to do something you want to do and you only get married once and if you plan it it takes the surprise out of it.  I guess I thought making a few suggestions, was not a big deal, maybe I am wrong.  Although, I am almost positive she said you need to tell us what you want to do, that is what I did.   Thanks for letting me vent!    
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    wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
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    Just an FYI - advertising for your own business is against the Knot's policy. You've been reported.
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    Dramastopper - reported.
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    angelajtmnangelajtmn member
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    Did I post something that was not ok?  I am so sorry!  Or did I miss something?
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    wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_bachelorette-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:89a79364-0a01-4cdf-b2de-3ed29ee303abPost:331df894-c547-400c-bcfe-7a1cd2bf0dd5">Re: Bachelorette (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did I post something that was not ok?  I am so sorry!  Or did I miss something?
    Posted by angelajtmn[/QUOTE]

    Nope - you're good!  Some vendor was posting on here about her conflict resolution business which is absolutely NOT okay by Knot rules.  She got reported. 
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