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Help with invitation wording/parents names

whinkle863whinkle863
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I am wording my invitation something like this:

The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of __ and __. 
Date, time, and venue info.
Then having the parents names.

We are paying for the wedding ourselves but would still like our parents names on the invitation. My fiance would like his dad, mom and stepdad's names on the invite. However, his mom and stepdad are no longer married (he still wants him on the invitation since he was a father figure to him growing up). So is there a good way to list his parent's names?
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Re: Help with invitation wording/parents names

  • mabapuntamabapunta
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    edited January 2013
    I've been working on our invites and have seen the general, "Together with their parents, Bride and Groom request the honor of your presence..." That way you get to include everyone without specifically naming them. A quick Google search offered a suggestion that if you are having a program for the ceremony, you could list out all the parents' names in there to show their contribution.

    I'm not anywhere near any kind of official on etiquette, but maybe you could go with something like:

    Mr and Mrs Mom and Dad
    request the honor of your presence
    at the marriage of their daughter
    bride
    and
    groom
    son of Mr. and Mrs. Mom and Stepdad and Mr Dad
    on Saturday, the sixth of June
    two thousand and thirteen
    at five o'clock
    Ceremony Place
    Neverneverland, Illinois

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    So ready to bring our families together and PARTY on April 13th, 2013!
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    image 53 Are ready to party!
    image 18 Will be missing out!
    image 154 Are MIA!
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    If you don't like the previous posters' suggestions, you could word the invitation as YOU suggested, and put the parents' names at the bottom like this:

    The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.
    The groom is the son of Ms. Janet Jones, Mr. Kurt Jones, and Mr. Mark Smith.


    (A divorced woman uses her maiden name - there is no "Mr. and Mrs. Kurt Jones" since they have divorced.)
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  • Sassenach1743Sassenach1743 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_help-with-invitation-wordingparents-names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:f828e768-3d05-414e-8c8e-d0e72efe6dfePost:e08b1c88-15b7-4ebe-81a1-ed1fb436fb63">Re: Help with invitation wording/parents names</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you don't like the previous posters' suggestions, you could word the invitation as YOU suggested, and put the parents' names at the bottom like this: The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. The groom is the son of Ms. Janet Jones, Mr. Kurt Jones, and Mr. Mark Smith. (A divorced woman uses her maiden name - there is no "Mr. and Mrs. Kurt Jones" since they have divorced.)
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    <div>None of these suggestions are proper etiquette! Do NOT follow. </div><div>
    </div><div>And since when do divorced women use their maiden names??? That is not true for all divorcees AT ALL! Most women keep their former married names for various reasons.</div><div>
    </div><div>When you are listing names of people who are divorced you simply place them on separate lines and refrain from using the word "and" to connect them because <em>that </em>would indicate they were still a married couple. </div><div>
    </div><div>Follow CMGr's advice and suggestions, she is 100% correct.</div>

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_help-with-invitation-wordingparents-names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:f828e768-3d05-414e-8c8e-d0e72efe6dfePost:626e58d3-f946-4646-b05f-ede8a8af7204">Re: Help with invitation wording/parents names</a>:
    [QUOTE]Who is hosting your wedding?  You are? The wedding invitation is a message from the hosts to the guests, telling them who, what, when and where.  It is not a proper place to list family members.  It is not a family tree. The reason you are having trouble finding correct wording for this is that it isn't correct etiquette.  IT IS NOT AN HONOR TO BE ON THE INVITATION! List your parents in your wedding program.  That is the proper place.  You can do this if you wish: Together with their families Bride's Full Name and Groom's Full Name request the honour of your presence as they are united in marriage Date time Church Name City, State Otherwise, if you want to give the honor of hosting to your parents, it would be this: Mr. and Mrs. John Brideparents Ms. Groom'smother Mr. Groom'sfather Mr. Groom'sstepdad request the honor of your presence at the marriage of Bride's Full Name to Groom's Full Name  Saturday, the sixth of June two thousand and thirteen five o'clock Church Name City, State Now doesn't that look awful!  You can't use "son of" like pp suggested, because his stepfather isn't really his father, and you are listing two fathers.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    This is the way to do it and the reason why!
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