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Invitation wording help...hosts or parents?

LoveWins88LoveWins88
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Hi, Ladies!
I need help with the invitation wording. My FI and I are fortunate enough to have our wedding paid for. My mom and step father are paying for practically everything. So, as hosts, their names will be at the top of the invite.
I was planning to use the following wording, since my mom and step dad were recently married and he didn't raise me:

 "Mr. and Mrs. S request the honor of your presense at the marriage of her daughter...."

The problem is that this totally leaves out my dad. Our relationship has been rocky since the divorce, and he isn't helping with the wedding, but I think cutting him out completely would be hurtful. Add to that that he recently got married to his long time girlfriend who I don't know that well.

How do I word it properly without hurting feelings? I thought about "Together with thier families..." but I think my step dad would be offended since they're hosting.
Help!
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Re: Invitation wording help...hosts or parents?

  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    Technically speaking, since your step father didn't raise you, his name should not be on the invitation at all. 

    Not having his name on the invitation isn't cutting him out.  You can still list him in the program, have a father-daughter dance, have him walk you down the aisle, etc. 

    Also, note that paying =/= hosting, so it is possible that without contributing financially, your father could help with the logistics of the wedding day and therefore be a host. 

    I think you need to talk to your mom and step dad and find out what they prefer, what they would accept, and what they object to.  Then have a conversation with your dad based on that info, and go from there.
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  • LoveWins88LoveWins88
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    Well, we won't be doing any of the sentimental father/daughter stuff because we've really grown apart and it would be super awkward.
    And while paying=/= hosting automatically, my mom and step dad are pretty much doing both. Really, all I can see my dad doing is showing up.

    It still seems like only listing my mom's name on the invite seems to insinuate that I am not also my father's child. And leaving off my step father? He's paying/hosting just as much as my mom is....
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  • ccannady2ccannady2
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    Both of my parents are paying for the wedding, my dad more than my mom, but because both of our parents are remarried, we put "Together with our parents..." Personally, the names on the invitations are not so much as who is paying for the invitation, but avoiding put 4 sets (or even 2 if only 1 set was remarried) of names on the invitation.  I've found that when parents are divorced, minor issues can become major problems.  If your step dad gets offended because they're hosting, you need to speak up IMO.  Together with our families does not exclude him and it would be childish of him to think so.  
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