So I need a little advice concerning an issue my fiance and I are having mixed feelings about. Or maybe I'm just being a total b!
@$% about it. Back in March, my fiance's father died from cancer. He got really sick starting December, so we basically spent every free moment at his parents' house or at the hospital helping his family or his father. Even after his father's death we've been spending quite a bit of time at his mom's because she constantly needs help around the house doing things her husband used to do. I really got along well with his father and I was glad we were there through the whole situation. I won't lie though.. it was hard to give up every free moment of time every weekend and putting all wedding plans aside. I kept my mouth shut though and tried to be as supportive as possible. So now we're getting married in a few weeks and we just picked up our wedding rings. Today my fiance's mom approached him and asked him if we would use my FIL's wedding ring for the ceremony. Then. after the ceremony, he could switch rings back to the one we bought together for him. On the way home, my fiance introduced the idea to me. At first my reaction was "oh great! I think that's nice sweet way to remember him." But the more I think about it, the less I like it. To me, it means a lot to have HIS ring blessed.. I wonder if I'd look at the ring he's wearing every day and think that it's not the one that was used during the ceremony. Am I being totally ridiculous? I guess my feels are also compiled by the fact that I feel like my FMIL is constantly giving him guilt trips even though he's been at her becking call.. Advice??