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to DIY or not to DIY.. that is the question...

So... I am in law school.. working 20 hours a week and planning this wedding.. so I havent really done ANY DIY.. and I am starting to worry that things will lack personal touches. I don't even know WHEN I would do DIY projects but I am so terrified our wedding will be forgetable!

anyways.. I suppose this is a vent/complaining session :-/

have a nice night ladies!

Re: to DIY or not to DIY.. that is the question...

  • edited December 2011
    I actually just dropped out of law school (actually I got a D in Constitutional Law and gave up). But I understand the stress!!! I was working 20 hours a week too. With that said I would be scared to take on any DIY until after the bar..even then with internships in the summer and taking BarBri who knows. That's just my opinion. You just have too much other stuff to worry about then will this dry right or will the glue hold, etc.
  • deborah2121deborah2121 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you have ESP!  I am also feeling some kind of way about DIYing...but I truly don't have that much interest in it.  So, if it is any help, I am with you!  And, I HIGHLY doubt your wedding will be unforgettable!  Ease up on yourself.  It will be fantastic!  :)
  • edited December 2011
    PS good luck in law school!! i admire anyone who can last threw it. I gave up second semester second year full time. (2L)
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks guys. I am one of those weirdos that LOVES law school. The stress KILLS me but I love love love it. I think I may need to have my head checked out.. lol...

    but I am glad I am not the only one shying away from DIY. I love all the elements we are introducing and I think they really represent us.. but still.. ah.

    I think maybe I should sleep.. clear the head :)
  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    There's no law that says you have to DIY anything, and there are plenty of ways to add personal touches to your wedding, which I'm sure you're doing. Don't worry about it! Some people love DIY, some don't. It's fine :)
  • edited December 2011
    DIYing is not an expected thing.  I know that I am not a crafty person but I decided to tackle it to savemoney.  I am not in law school though.  I am a teacher who just had a week off of school in Feb.  During that time, I worked on my card bx...took me all week.  I have plans to work during April vacation on table numbers, OOT bags, and any other small things.  If I didn't have those weeks, there is no way that I would tackle anything.  Focus on school and your personal touches will be all ver the place in your wedding because you chose everything...that is enough.
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm not doing any DIY either, not because of lack of time but because I failed kindergarten art class. I might ask FMIL to do some stuff because she's pretty crafty. I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • edited December 2011
    I DIY'd things simply to save money :-)  I think as long as you work with your vendors and share your ideas, your style will shine through.  Don't worry about it at all.  You chose your vendors for their expertise - now trust them!
  • edited December 2011
    Tee-I meant to tell you I wwent to Mass School of Law-close by and cheap.  I worked full time, had a part time job, and had a baby 2nd semester of law school and still finished! If you can manage your time, you can definitely DIY some projects!
  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    I got married the first time in the middle of law school--and I was working 40 hours a week at the time.  I don't believe there was a single bit of DIY in my whole wedding.  In fact, I'm pretty sure that my in-laws picked out the ceremony venue, the reception venue, and the flowers, and took me to the place I got my dress. No, this wasn't interference on their part.  I was pretty much in the "let me know when I should walk down the aisle, because that's the only time I have available to do anything" camp.

    The fact is, we all worry way too much about our weddings being "unique."  The people who are important to us will be there because they want to celebrate with us, and familiar words and traditions just bring home the message of what they are there to celebrate.  The people who think of weddings as a competitive sport are not the important ones, anyway.

    For my second wedding (33 years later), there was far more DIY.  But I'm now self-employed, and can manage my own hours.  I did it for myself, and I did it for my wife.  But I still really wasn't doing DIY for my guests.  Let's face it, most of the details we agonize over are ones that most guests won't even notice.
  • jilliannoel88jilliannoel88 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree with PP.  I let go of worrying about minor details with the realization that most of the guests would not even notice them.  Since doing that, my wedding planning has been a pleasant, stress-free & really fun time!

    I began planning when I was in law school too and I did not worry about any of the minor things at that time.  Luckily my wedding is after graduating/taking (& passing!) the bar.  But don't worry about it, just do what you can and I am sure it will be perfect!
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