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Memorial Weekend Wedding...
So, yesterday, we met with our Priest for the first time and were able to tentatively schedule a date for 5/28/2011. I do not really want to get married on Memorial weekend; however the date we wanted is not available and early may is not an option d/t my FI being in grad school. Everything else is booked through the end of August and I'm not willing to wait that long or go to another church (this is my family church and I was baptized there).
I am very nervous about having a wedding on Memorial weekend. Although my immediate family lives in the area and is fine with that day, most of our guests are from out of town and out of state; which I suppose would allow for an extra day of travel (it is a 17hr drive for my FI dad and brother). My FI tells me not to worry, that if people can make it they will. Our wedding will be smallish - we are still adjusting the guest list, but we are looking at around 50 invites going out. I worry that no one will show up.
I suppose I need to send out Save the Dates since it is a holiday weekend, but I don't know how soon to do that.
This just sucks; as I feel really bad about taking up one day on a 3 day weekend (3 day weekends are precious to me, too).
Why oh why did the 21st have to be taken? argh LOL
I am very nervous about having a wedding on Memorial weekend. Although my immediate family lives in the area and is fine with that day, most of our guests are from out of town and out of state; which I suppose would allow for an extra day of travel (it is a 17hr drive for my FI dad and brother). My FI tells me not to worry, that if people can make it they will. Our wedding will be smallish - we are still adjusting the guest list, but we are looking at around 50 invites going out. I worry that no one will show up.
I suppose I need to send out Save the Dates since it is a holiday weekend, but I don't know how soon to do that.
This just sucks; as I feel really bad about taking up one day on a 3 day weekend (3 day weekends are precious to me, too).
Why oh why did the 21st have to be taken? argh LOL
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Re: Memorial Weekend Wedding...
3 day holiday weekends are actually recommended by some people when you have a lot of OOT people because it gives them an extra travel day. I wouldn't worry too much about it. And honestly, you will have people that have plans regardless or vacations planned no matter what time of year it is. We were originally supposed to get married New Years Eve this year and knew a lot of people wouldn't be able to travel at Christmas. We had to bump it up to July and there were a lot of people who couldn't go because of summer vacations and things. There is never a time of year when everyone can make it, so 3 day weekends are usually a better bet.
I would definitely send STDs as soon as you can though, just so people get it on their calendars and can look for travel deals.
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However, I work for a company that does not allow us to take off the day before or after a holiday.
E.g.- Memorial weekend, I have to work Friday and the following Monday (holiday), and Tuesday.
My office, however, is bassackwards, and this is not common in other workplaces.
With a guess list of 50, I'm sure they are all close relatives that will do what they can to make it to your big day.
Maybe call the ones your are particularly concerned about?
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[QUOTE]Thanks, gals. I am definitely freaking out this week; as I have had to add to my already busy schedule the meetings with our Priest, various parish activities, an Engaged Encounter weekend; and I still need to go dress shopping (as a plus size bride, this adds a whole other level of anxiety), figure out a weekend for engagement pics (our MOH offered to do them), and find a wedding photographer. I'm sure there's lots of other things I need to do that I can't think of. Glad to know that Save the Dates need to get out soon - I will have to make sure FI has all the addresses from his side and make sure Mom is done adding people. Hopefully I can get them out by the end of the month. <strong>I have heard of people reserving a block of hotel rooms for out of town guests - is this a good idea? Is it possible to get discounted rates for those rooms? Or is it a huge hassle?</strong>
Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]
Try not to stress out too much about getting everything done. Just make a list and check things off as you go.
Getting a hotel room block is a great idea. You usually will get a discounted rate for your guests, which could be an added incentive to come if they know they can save a little money. I think we got about 15% the regular daily rate and they served breakfast every morning so that was one less thing for our guests to have to worry about.
Bottom line, don't worry about it. If a guest uses not wanting to give up a three day weekend as an excuse, then they probable were not going to attend in the first place. Celebrate the love between you and your FH, everything else is just 'icing on the cake'
[QUOTE]wouldnt his final exams and such be the first week of May, or second at the latest? id think he'd be done by May 14.... is that date a possibility? otherwise, it is what it is. the folks that truly want to be there will be there, and id def send STD's ASAP.
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The semester ends May 13th, so I would be finishing up wedding stuff while he's doing finals. However, our local university's graduation is May 14th and it would be probably be difficult to get rooms that weekend (everything fills up early for graduation here). Also, he works in a middle school and would like to wrap up that semester before we get married so that he doesn't have to worry about missing any work.
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