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Re: bridal party help

• deburnin member

  

  September 2012

  So if I'm understanding your post right, your worry is about uneven sides? They really aren't that big of a deal. FI will be having 5 people standing up for him and I will be having 4. You should really only be asking the people you really want to stand up for you to do so.

  
  

  Also please spell check before posting. It was difficult to understand a lot of what you were saying.

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• bluebfalo member

  

  September 2012 edited September 2012

  Are you trying to find 2 friends to make the bridal party even? Because it is as PP said okay to have uneven sides. It's even okay to have opposite sex (if you have close guy friends or want to move a groomsman over to the bride's side).

  
  Friend #1  you don't hang out with/talk much with because she let herself go and now is lazy, and hardly talks... Is your concern 1) you don't hang out with her much 2) she let herself go 3) she is lazy 4) she hardly talks? 
  I personally am not sure why she is even a candidate as you 1) don't hang out with her much... the other reasons to exclude her seem suspect  2) body type - unless you are adament that your bridal party look a particular way  3) laziness - it's nice but not an expectation for them to help you with the wedding 4) she hardly talks - your bridal party are standing up for you, not to be hosts/socialize with people at the wedding (although, it is of course nice).
  Friend #2 It's difficult to understand from your post if the person who wanted to go dress shopping with you is friend #1 or a different person to be classified as friend #2
  Friend #3 &4 (best friends from high school... again difficult to understand from your post if they are actually also Friend #1 or Friend #2) 1) grew apart 2) do anything for you 3) their lives prevent you from getting together
  I personally would choose Friend #3 or 4 for you as it doesn't sound like you have as many negatives towards them
  I'm not sure if you need to ask someone you know will be there years from now... again their job is to be witnesses at your marriage (and based on old superstition to ward off evil or raiders) not friends for life (although it often turns out that people in your bridal party are your friends for life).

  

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• TayBeach2013

  

  September 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2013-weddings_bridal-party-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:26a515ec-8009-4599-b81d-5edee3b3fb3cDiscussion:9f6f7e48-b237-4c1b-9ec7-84b4fe8ceb46Post:746035b8-d6d1-4842-b878-f5834f4da628">Re: bridal party help</a>:
  [QUOTE]So if I'm understanding your post right, your worry is about uneven sides? They really aren't that big of a deal. FI will be having 5 people standing up for him and I will be having 4. You should really only be asking the people you really want to stand up for you to do so. Also please spell check before posting. It was difficult to understand a lot of what you were saying.
  Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This, exactly.  FI and I immediately had people in mind, and the numbers came up even.  If they hadn't, no big deal.  I may even change my mind about asking my 3rd, even though FI has asked all 3 of his guys - all I care about is that my core group is represented.  Whether that winds up 3/3 or 2/3...doesn't matter.</div>

  
  
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