I know that there is no tactful way to do this but I’m in a bind. Background: Have been going to this church all our lives the members are our family. It is a small congregation about 150. We sent an invitation to every member to attend the wedding with RSVP to be back no later than Oct. 1st.We have received maybe 10 stating that they will be attending. Today I asked a few people about the RSVP and the response from each was “You know we would never miss her wedding, we just assumed that you knew we were attending”Ok so here is the question we have a church e-mail message board that I want to put a reminder that RSVP’S really need to be mailed back. At $15.00 a person the caterers needs a count, and I need to know.Please help me with the wording.