I don't post on here a lot but right now I am so upset that I need to vent and get some feedback.
My wedding is next July but my mom is a planner so she asked my MOH to help her start planning my shower early. My mom was hoping to host the shower with the bridal party (6 bridesmaids) but she was going to cover most of the expenses. Apparently, my MOH sent out an email to the other girls saying that they visited a few restaurants and banquet halls and they found the lowest price they could to host the shower. She told the girls my mom was willing to pay most of it but was wondering if the girls could each contribute $250. Now, in northern Jersey to haves party for 50 people that is a very good price!
Now, I understand that everyone handles finances differently, but what hurt me the most was the responses that came back. My mom thought that the girls would be willing to pay for a part of the shower and be involved. However, 2 girls wrote back and said they absolutely would not help. They told my mom that she was planning something too extravagant and that we should have it in the backyard. Another bridesmaid wrote back that because her MIL hosted her shower she didn't think she should have to host mine. If they couldn't afford it, then I understand. However I was appalled that as my closest friends they were so rude and quick to downplay my shower and want nothing t do with it.
I feel hurt because I would do anything to make my friends happy. Two of the bridesmaids have gotten married and I have gone above and beyond for them. My mom is a reasonable person who would never plan something that she thought was too extravagant but as her only daughter she wants to make it beautiful. They really upset her and she told me that she is going to pay for it herself since they were not willing to help.