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She totally needs to remove the stick from her ass.

Dear Prudence,
My brother and I have a close relationship, and despite being in our 40s, we’re fairly juvenile in our jokes and discussions. So, our texting is mostly stupid jokes and bathroom humor (70 percent) and random discussions of pretty women (10 percent). While we can be scatological when we get together, the reflections on pretty women is never, ever done in front of other people. This has been part of our relationship since we were kids. My wife objects to all this. There are no secrets here; my cellphone is open for my wife to look at any time she wants. She, however, gets upset simply knowing it's going on and thinks I should stop. I argue that nobody sees the texts, that we never make comments when anyone else is around, and that when guys get together they'll be guys. Your thoughts?

—Textually Challenged

Re: She totally needs to remove the stick from her ass.

  • I think it depends on the topic re: the pretty women. 

    It could run pretty rampant, and get gross if you're that type of guy.

    BUT, I'm never comfortable with someone perusing my phone even if I do have nothign to hide.
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  • I was wondering myself if this was a game of "F, marry, kill" or "let me graphically describe the boobs on the woman I'm mentally undressing from across the room"

    'cuz theyre different.
  • You know, if he's not trying to hide the texts at all, I can't imagine that they're inappropriate in some manner.  I don't see how this is better/worse than when I text friends saying, "You wouldn't believe the woman in the office wearing black tights with short brown boots today".  People like to gossip, evenmen.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_she-totally-needs-to-remove-the-stick-from-her-ass?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d0d63c20-afa8-4c03-a90c-f9af05992b03Post:3d9392e1-f42d-40c6-8eb5-f21b45a16c35">Re: She totally needs to remove the stick from her ass.</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know, if he's not trying to hide the texts at all, I can't imagine that they're inappropriate in some manner.  I don't see how this is better/worse than when I text friends saying, "You wouldn't believe the woman in the office wearing black tights with short brown boots today".  People like to gossip, evenmen.
    Posted by VarunaTT[/QUOTE]

    Exactly.   I know DH and BIL have their stupid stuff and it's probably only amusing to them.  But it's their stuff.

    She can resolve all of this by not looking at his phone/texts.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: She totally needs to remove the stick from her ass. : Exactly.   I know DH and BIL have their stupid stuff and it's probably only amusing to them.  But it's their stuff. She can resolve all of this by not looking at his phone/texts.
    Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sounds like she doesn't and that she just hates that it's there.</div><div>
    </div><div>And really, just because they aren't embarrassed about what they write doesn't mean it's not assy or inappropriate. Plenty of people do inappropriate sht that they think is cool. (See Mrs. conn's 4 men post.)</div><div>
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  • I get what DG's saying.  I agree with GB too.  I just think that people usually know when they're doing something they should be embarassed about, even if they're not, and try to hide it from judging.

    I just don't like assuming that it MUST be inappropriate, b/c men couldn't possibly crack some jokes, speak about pretty women that wouldn't be offensive.  B/c seriously, I'd have to stop talking about Vin Diesel in his underwear in Triple X so much, y'know?
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