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lindseymon
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Skipping the bouquet toss?
I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
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Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
Skip it.
It is so not happening at my wedding. As someone getting married at 33, I have been put through my fair share of embarrassing scenes related to the bouquet toss.
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I am definitely not throwing my bouquet, nor any toss bouquet that might show up as a gift from the florist (we didn't hear of one, nor did we buy/request one.)
First, my bouquet is a cascade bouquet and will be both heavy and dangerous to throw LOL
Second, I want to save it as table decor and then at home in a vase (drying what I can salvage)
If I was not carrying a heavy bouquet, what I'd do is give the bouquet to a special lady who attends (maybe the most senior lady - eldest), or pull a flower out and give one to each older lady who attends (or young lady/little girl)
I have also read some ideas of what to do with the other flowers, for those folks having a wedding that is not in their hometown and therefore folks won't easily be able to just drive home with a centerpiece or an aisle floral. I haven't asked my fiance, but I had an idea we'd give a centerpiece to a few guests (his mother lives not far, for example, our two godmothers will both be there, etc.) and the rest of the flowers we'd take to a nursing home or children's hospital. We're in D.C. so we could also bring flowers to Arlington National Cementary. We'd do this on Sunday, so we could return the containers by the end of the week (our deadline from the florist)....
So, you could do something similar, give all the flowers to a nursing home hospital or some such ....and some to your Godmothers...Mothers...Sisters....Grandmothers...
Good luck!
I am definitely skipping both!
I think as long as you keep the events classy and don't pressure people to participate, they aren't a big deal. But it's also not a big deal to skip them.
As a cute side-note. The guy who caught the garter, and the girl who caught the bouquette at our wedding are now engaged and marrying in Sept.
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
<font color="#339966">I hate it.. I'm not going to do that or the garder toss at my wedding. I think it's kind of a degrading tradition.</font>
[QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony.
Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
I don't think this sounds strange. I think its a very nice thought. My grandmother passed away right after my fiance and I met and I wish she could have gotten to know him before she died. We are planning to skip both the bouquet and garter toss. Thank you for the lovely idea.
[QUOTE]All of these comments were very helpful for me too! I am planning my wedding, and am feeling a little overwhelmed, and things like this are getting to me too even though they are just small details...
Posted by StephnRy0812[/QUOTE]
<div>I totally hear you. i'm still nailing down big stufflike the dj and flowers, but little things shoes and the bouquet toss keep distracting me!! I guess it's just the girl in us that wants to get into the details already!! Ha ha! Good luck planning! My brother lives out in Colorado, cool place</div>
Most of the women at our wedding were already married, so instead of tossing a traditional bouquet my MOH made a lottery ticket bouquet with scratch tickets and I tossed it for ALL of the women at the reception. Everyone really liked the idea and the lady that caught it won $60! We skipped the garter toss.
I say do what you want...It's your choice.
As for me...I won't be skipping it. I've got younger guests coming and personaly I feel it's just one of those fun things to do
garter toss, "the bride cuts the cake" song, nor did the bridal party and parents enter the hall in a procession. I actually had to talk them into making an entry into the reception but they were glad they did that! At first I thought it was very strange but in the end I didn't miss any of that at all. In fact without it made the their wedding a very classy affair. So this is your wedding and you should do as you want to and not worry about what others will think!! In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b4c32f0b-4420-47d4-a729-c3d804854bbf">Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>:
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]