I have 5 bridesmaids, 4 of whom are my college friends and all know each other very well and one of whom is my friend from high school. My friend from high school and one of my friends from college are co maids of honor, but don't know each other very well. I haven't been very pushy about dresses and making plans for everyone to do things together (like crafting, etc) because most of us live at least 2 hours from each other. I tried planning a weekend for everyone to meet in the middle and dress shop, but everyone backed out at the last second (which I was a little hurt by, but didn't make a big deal out of it).
Now we about 6 months out from the wedding date and I don't think anything has been planned as far as a shower or bachelorette party goes. I know it's not a requirement for the bridesmaids to plan anything and it is incredibly tacky to plan your own, but I think these things are a fun part of the wedding experience!
Would it be acceptable to send the maids of honor each other's contact information along with my mom's information and just throw it out there that if they want to plan anything these are the people they should get in contact with? I don't want to be pushy, but I don't want the fact that they don't know each other very well to be the reason they don't plan anything. Is it selfish to want them to plan something? This bride thing is complicated sometimes!