My MOH is throwing me a shower is this Sunday and FMIL responded yesterday on the E-invite that she can't make it because she has tickets to a local theater production. I was a little disappointed but I understand why she couldn't come. In conversation, I mentioned it to FI who became slightly irratated and said " Oh no, she's going. I'm making her, it's YOUR shower!"
I told him that it's not a big deal. I wonder if his reaction is due to the fact that a while ago I was worried that there's no one at my shower since everyone is out of town. (I got over it)
So far there's going to 5 people at my shower including myself. I don't mind it too much and I'm really not expecting gifts but just some time to hang out with my mom and my BMs. In the same time, it would be very nice to have my FMIL come and get to know my mom because their relationship is slightly awkward (due to slight language barrier on my mom's part) and FMIL doesn't seem to show a lot of respect towards her in conversation.
Technically she can make it to the shower and then go to her production because the shower is 2pm in the afternoon and the production is at 8pm. I really don't want my FI to strain his already unstable relationship with his mother for a bridal shower. It's not that big of a deal really! But my FI & MOH seems a bit pissed at her saying that it's BS she's not going...etc. I also don't want to bring it up to my FMIL that it's okay for her to not come, making it sound like I'm guilting her. I also wonder if she didn't want to come because she just really doesn't like my mom (we've invited her to our house 6 different time in the last 3 years and she alway declined) just because she's a very out going person.
Ugh, maybe there's really nothing I can do about this and just don't say anything to anyone since it's none of my business really.