My brother and I are 22 months apart. I've already asked his girlfriend (now fiance) and son to be a part of the wedding. My fiance said he has no problem with my brother, but refuses to have him as a groomsman. He even told me to have my 24 year old brother be a ring bearer. Family is very important to me, but not important to him.
My brother and his fiance have both expressed that if he is not in the wedding, she will not be a bridesmaid. I've already asked my fiance's sister, and his brother will be the best man. I'm planning on asking my sister who I'm not too close to, but is finally getting herself in better shape to hopefully be a part of my wedding. If my brother is not a groomsman, he will be the only sibling in both our families to not be in the wedding.
My fiance is very stubborn and is now saying that if my brother is in the wedding, he will not marry me. I don't know what to do. What can I do or say to change his mind. I've already had to compromise (give him his way) on the date, location, time, and to not invite my ex-boyfriend, who is now a really good friend of mine. Is this even fair? My parents are paying for the entire wedding