I agreed to be the maid of honor to one of my long time friends weddings because her sister refused to attend, since this is her second wedding (which I was already a bridesmaid in the first wedding). The wedding is on a Sunday in GA, while I live in Northern VA with my family. My son's first birthday is the Saturday before the wedding and I am getting a lot of heat from my family for taking him away on his special day. This is all real stressful for me in planning, because I tried to find flights in and out on the same day as the wedding but I would have to drive 2 hours to the location of the wedding from the airport. Would it be completely un-thinkable if I told her I couldn't attend, let alone be in, the wedding? Any suggestions as to what to do? Thanks!