Hello everyone. I need advice.
My best friend from childhood announced she was engaged around the same time as my FI and I. I was happy for them. but as soon as i announced my engagement, i was met with both happiness and comments about how "they don't feel the need to have a giant wedding to show off and how theirs will be about their love and the more important things" (our family alone makes 100 guests and we are doing a total of 150) or "they don't need to have a diamond to prove they love each other unlike some people but if that's how we choose to show it then that's ok, but they know what matters". It was hurtful and demeaning towards me the way they said it but i let it go giving the benefit of the doubt of miscommunication.
For 5 months i listened to these comments. I helped her buy a dress both financially and attended lots of shopping, i offered to help diy to save her money, i even served her ex with divorce papers. I was there for her.
Then... i received a text message invitation to her wedding....
I was told from the beginning that she would help pay for the wedding party as a destination wedding is a lot to expect for someone to mandatory go, but she turned around and hit me with an ourageous price and when i spoke up about hesitations on pricing and asked about discounts, she told me that she is offended, she never offered me anything, has no idea where i would get that understanding from (she even told my fiance to his face that they would help before), told me not to pay my bills if she meant anything to me and its not the end of the world if collections calls me, told me at least i am fortunate to have to ability to go to the bank to take out a loan while others may not have credit and if i ever thought of going last minute to get a better deal she would be hurt and offended and angry.
We worked through that argument, but two weeks later i found what i believed to be my dress and asked if she would come with me and she outright blew me off. She denied this after the fact. I feel like i have been completely taken advantage of, lied to repeatedly, and made to feel terrible almost constantly. She outright denies all the horrible things she has said to me, even though i have months of texts to prove it and her lies, I finally called her a bridezilla when she told me that i am jealous of her relationship and must have my own guilt associated with my wedding if her comments made me feel bad. It has been a couple months now without speaking.
She was my best friend and i miss her in my life. do i try to patch this? or do i let it go and cut her out entirely.