I have never been married, have very, very few friends that are married and have only been to two weddings. Two years ago, I met a wonderful man who made me believe in marriage...somewhat. He wants to get married in our church next year.
I feel happy, overwhelmed and lost.
I don't care about colors or flowers or perfect invitations or having bridesmaids or all the stuff my sister worried sick about and made her mean and angry. He says he doesn't care either...although it seems to me he expects me to care about those things. He keeps saying how women dream most of their lives for their wedding day, etc. and I just cannot relate. I just want true love. And we found each other and I am happy.
In any case, he wants a wedding, I want a dress I can keep and wear again and want the religious component with family and friends and want to feed them after the ceremony. He agrees with the church and ceremony, but doesn't want anything big that day, but a couple of months later, have the reception at a downtown venue and hire a band.
Do guests really look at the details (colors, flowers, etc)?
Would guests come to a reception or party a couple of months after the wedding?
Is there really a decent wedding dress one can wear again and not keep in a box?
I'm doing my research, but wanted some input from experts.