Plus 1 Question for MOH

Re: Plus 1 Question for MOH

• Simply Fated member

  

  January 2012

  Etiquette states that anyone in a relationship should be invited with their SO. If she isn't currently dating anyone, then you don't have to invite her with a plus 1. If she does start dating someone by the time your wedding comes around, you can always extend the invitation to include him. Has she dated anyone since she's been widowed or talked about dating again?

  
  

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• Amt2109

  

  January 2012

  I would probably still give her a plus one in this situation, since its nice for WP members to have that, if you have the space.
  
  Then she gets to make the choice of someone she's dating (if she is) or bringing a friend or family member with her.

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• MrsKigerToBe

  

  January 2012

  I think I would ask her if she would like to bring anyone face to face. Just seeing an invitation with a plus one could being up difficult feelings. Give her a plus one if she thinks she will want to bring someone. 

  

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• acaponi87 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_plus-1-question-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:43fc8d49-8e62-451a-b06d-0f30b723b44aPost:bf29e5fd-4e57-40b7-9b26-ad7778e87d21">Re: Plus 1 Question for MOH</a>:
  [QUOTE]Etiquette states that anyone in a relationship should be invited with their SO. If she isn't currently dating anyone, then you don't have to invite her with a plus 1. If she does start dating someone by the time your wedding comes around, you can always extend the invitation to include him. <strong> Has she dated anyone since she's been widowed or talked about dating again?</strong>
  Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
  
  I think that's really important. I am inviting someone who's husband died like a year and a half ago and I think she'd be offended if I gave her a plus one, knowing her and how she's dealt with his death. That being said, many of her friends will be at the wedding, as will both her daughters so I am certain that she will be well taken care of and have lots of fun

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• Simply Fated member

  

  January 2012

  Yeah, that's why I asked. Sometimes people who lost someone close to them can be sensitive, which is understandable. Do you feel okay talking to her about it? Maybe there is a friend shed like being with her?

  
  

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2012

  Talk to her and ask. You definitely don't want to offend and this is a particularly sensitive situation.

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• volleygurl0306 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_plus-1-question-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:43fc8d49-8e62-451a-b06d-0f30b723b44aPost:ff2ee29e-815e-460e-8c76-44ce66e501c1">Re: Plus 1 Question for MOH</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think I would ask her if she would like to bring anyone face to face. Just seeing an invitation with a plus one could being up difficult feelings. Give her a plus one if she thinks she will want to bring someone. 
  Posted by MrsKigerToBe[/QUOTE]
  
  All of this!  If she is your MOH you two must be close so I would just approach it with her delicately.  Also, writing "and guest" may be harder on her and drum up feelings of her loss.  I'd ask if she has a friend--male or female, romantic or platonic, she would like to have at her side at your wedding.  If she says yes, ask for their name so you can properly address the envelope (and leave in any room for associating with her late husband).  If she says no, you can drop it.

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