Back in August one of my bridesmaids offered to throw my bridal shower and my MOH didn't want her to cause she wanted to do it. As much as I tried to stay out of it they both came to me and told me that I had to decide who was going to throw it. Since my MOH asked if she got to throw it first, I just kinda said she could take point on it. My other BM was understanding and said she'd help out the MOH in anyway she could.
Fast forward to December and my MOH had done nothing to plan it, despite urging from my BM and FMIL and mom. Most she did was pick out a date 2 weeks before the wedding. Both my mom and my FMIL hated the date as they knew they'd be busy with wedding prep and asked if it could be moved to January. MOH said fine and then having the date picked said she "was done planning it the time being." After hearing this my FMIL took over and has done everything from having it at her house, to sending out the invites, though has tried to keep my MOH involved. My MOH seems to have no interest in it, told me the theme for the shower which the rest wanted to keep a surprise. All my BMs have come to me complaining about her lack of doing anything for it, and her general bad attitude. I am trying my absolute hardest to stay out of it completly. I am hurt by my MOH not wanting me to talk to her about my wedding and complaining about every decision I have made about it so far. Should I just continue to grin and bear it through the wedding and hope the rest of my BM don't hate me for not talking to her or let my once best friend know I'm hurt by her hostility towards me? Any advice would be appriciate it and as it sits right now I've been just listening to complaints coming in without responding too much.