I really cannot believe I'm writing this, and the wedding isn't for another 9-10 months.
Fiance and I got engaged in December, and we're making baby steps towards the wedding. We are fronting the bill for it all. We just put a working guestlist together, and plan to have about 100 people. (110 is our max) Fiance invited 51, I invited 54. Half of my invites are family alone. This is family I actually see everytime I'm at family functions. I'm not exactly close to all of them, either. I texted my mom that half of my invites are family alone, and she calls me immediately, to remind me to invite her uncles and their families- some of those people, I have not spoken to since I was a child, literally 20 years ago! Adding these additional family members will add at least 20 extra people!
I tried to explain to her that we were paying for everything, and she said, "Well they're gonna give you money anyway, so what's the big deal?" Ok mom, can you guarantee they will give us the approximate $100 per person ( includes food, drinks, & tax)?? Then she goes off on me, saying the extended family will yell at her (really, these uncles she hardly ever sees are going to be so livid) and what not, and then HANGS UP ON ME! I am livid at her childish behavior!
I cannot believe her nerve and how unsympathetic she is. Not surprising though, she's gone out of her way to cause drama for me in all my special occasions, since high school. I went to my winter formal and prom in high school as a senior, the only 2 dances I went to in high school. She managed to yell and start and arguments for not cleaning the house before the dances, and even took away my prom dress. On my 21st birthday, my friends drove me home (I obviously had some drinks), and drove my car home for me. The next morning, my mom says my car keys are missing (my friends left them on our dining room table, and they magically disappeared), yells at me for coming home drunk, and she says I cannot drive anymore. A few years later, I found those "missing" keys in our house. Some piece of work I have for a mother, right?