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Orthodox Jewish Wedding
I'm an orthodox Jewish woman. Not only am I orthodox, but I'm chassidish. Now, most of you by now are wondering what I am doing on The Knot, but I am here for the same reason you are: I'm getting married.
A little background:
I was not raised religious and basically had no Jewish idenity beyond knowing I was Jewish. In fact, I'm the first in my family to be religious in six generations. My chosen (name for groom in orthodox weddings and is pronounced "CH-oo-san") is the first in his family to be religious since the Communitst take over in Russia. However, we've both been religious for years and this is our second wedding.
The reason I'm posting this is because the wedding is constantly on my mind, but I'm boring my friends with constant wedding talk. I've also wanted to open up the floor for those of you interested in what differences can be seen in an orthodox wedding. I am happy to discuss any topic or answer any question regarding Judaism, Orthodoxy and chassidism. My only request is that you show me respect just as I show you respect and do not criticize me for my choices. Judgement is for the Heavenly Tribunal...lets be friends.
My wedding is planned for two days before Rosh HaShannah and it will be held in Crown Heights, Brooklyn, New York. Most likely the chuppah will be held right outside 770 like most Lubavitcher weddings.
Add me as a friend! Send me questions! Lets talk weddings!
Regards,
Miri
A little background:
I was not raised religious and basically had no Jewish idenity beyond knowing I was Jewish. In fact, I'm the first in my family to be religious in six generations. My chosen (name for groom in orthodox weddings and is pronounced "CH-oo-san") is the first in his family to be religious since the Communitst take over in Russia. However, we've both been religious for years and this is our second wedding.
The reason I'm posting this is because the wedding is constantly on my mind, but I'm boring my friends with constant wedding talk. I've also wanted to open up the floor for those of you interested in what differences can be seen in an orthodox wedding. I am happy to discuss any topic or answer any question regarding Judaism, Orthodoxy and chassidism. My only request is that you show me respect just as I show you respect and do not criticize me for my choices. Judgement is for the Heavenly Tribunal...lets be friends.
My wedding is planned for two days before Rosh HaShannah and it will be held in Crown Heights, Brooklyn, New York. Most likely the chuppah will be held right outside 770 like most Lubavitcher weddings.
Add me as a friend! Send me questions! Lets talk weddings!
Regards,
Miri
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Re: Orthodox Jewish Wedding
I am a traditional conservative and have been to many orthodox weddings and a handful of chasidim weddings. Can't wait to hear more of your plans and see your pictures!
The Knot lost my info, but, I've been married since 6/19/05!
Oh, and my daughter is named Miriam. :-)
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I just wanted to welcome you. I think you will find there is a wide range of Jewish beliefs on this board! I'm also a Brooklynite btw
Hey guys,
I am trying to finalize last min wedding plans and I had a quick question about circling the groom 7 times? As stated in my earlier message I was raised orthodox but have not been in about 10 years. My fiancé are having a conservative ceremony but I would like to have it as traditional as possible. When speaking with our rabbi I asked him about circling 7 times, he said I can do that but I should circle 4 times with my mother and 3 time with his mother. What do people traditionally do? His reasoning was because the chuppa is not that big and there is not enough room for both of them to go around when speaking with my future mother in law she mentioned that my sister-in law only circled 4 times. Just wanted to see what you guys suggest.
I circled DH 3 times by myself (without my mom or MIL). As far as I know, circling is a tradition and not Halacha, so I do not think it really matters in the end. My conservative Rabbi was fine with me circling 7 times, 3 times or not at all.
i am having an orthodox wedding including bedeken and tisch. Fi and i came from a conservative upbringing, i became very observant for a few years while living in Israel, but i realized it wasnt how i wanted to live my life, but i feel i should get married the way it is said, but halacha.
[QUOTE]When you don't have mixed dancing and your music is made up of a few Jewish guys playing the traditional Jewish stuff only, your food is all glatt kosher and only can come from a handful of caterers, and your wedding is on, gasp, a sunday!, you sort of don't fit in. :) [/QUOTE]If it helps any, our wedding was on a Tuesday. I have yet to meet a single other Tuesday bride. Then again, there were so many other ways in which we did not fit in. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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[QUOTE]Hi Miri, I'm Orthodox and having an Orthodox wedding too. Sometimes I feel a little lost in the online world of wedding plans because so much doesn't seem to be relevant. When you don't have mixed dancing and your music is made up of a few Jewish guys playing the traditional Jewish stuff only, your food is all glatt kosher and only can come from a handful of caterers, and your wedding is on, gasp, a sunday!, you sort of don't fit in. :) Nice to meet you though and good luck on your plans!
Posted by lachlom[/QUOTE]
Sunday in NJ? Really not all that uncommon. Kosher is less common, but, still, not THAT out there, especially in North Jersey!
The Knot lost my info, but, I've been married since 6/19/05!
As far as circling, I circled DH 7 times ALONE. My MOH gave me my train and I held it over my arm as I walked around. It was kind of a small space.
[QUOTE]Mazel Tov Miriam! Personally, I am happy that you are on the sight. The Knot welcomes all from diverse areas. I also appreciate you explaining some of your traditions. I don't think it comes across as rude; but it allows people to learn. My parents were Orthodox but my beloved is Reform and we agreed to a conservative wedding. You must be very excited! I don't have a ton of people to talk to either, except my mum, whom I may be driving a little crazy! To answer someone's question about the circling- it appears to be Ashkenazic in tradition and it is not law...more of a custom. You can circle your groom 3, 4 or 7 times or you can both circle together. I posted on another message today that it was traditional for the bride's mother and groom's other to help carry the train; but my mum explained that she would become very dizzy, so I will do it myself. I found a lovely wedding song to circle to and have been practicing, so that I am not dizzy!
Posted by Jeni35[/QUOTE]
Do most people have a song when they are circling the groom? What song are you using? and What songs are you using for the ceremony. I am walking down to Erev Shel Shonamim. Can't figure what the bridal party should walk down to, we were thinking can't help falling in love with you, But I would love a jewish song!
[QUOTE]I don't know if people use a song for circling; but the one I found was an old Moroccan wedding song on YouTube...... the melody is sad and haunting and that is perfect for my circling. I think it will capture everyone's attention and to the fact that I've been practicing my circling! LOL! FI's late father was from Morocco and as I am Ashkenazic and Sephardic and FI is Sephardic- I found it important to mix traditions. Rivkah, when are you getting married?
Posted by Jeni35[/QUOTE]
I am getting married this weekend!!!! May 1st! Do you know of any good songs for the bridal party and groom to walk down the isle to?
Hi Jeni,
So i think I finally figured out the song list for the ceremony 3 days before my wedding!! haa.. I will be walking down to Erev Shel Shoshanim , the bridal party will be walking down to al Koelah and my FI wants to walk down to can't help falling in love with you. I will be circling to Ani L'Dodi Li! I think there are a nice assortment of songs, my Fi feels he wants an english song becaus we will have a number of non- jewish guests attending and he wants to play something they can understand. So thats about it, just waiting for the day to finally arrive!
I hope you find this useful.
Sophie