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How to honor recent death of sister?

Hi,

I haven't actually written a post on here yet but life has thrown me a curve ball that I just don't know how to handle. My little sister was killed in a car accident two weeks ago and my wedding is in two months. Our family wants us to keep the wedding date - our family really needs a happy / celebratory day - and I know that whether I get married in two months or two years nothing is going to change the fact that she won't be there and I don't know how to handle that saddness, however we're really being encouraged by all our loved ones to proceed with the wedding and that that's what she would want for us.

My question is how to I honor my little sister at the wedding and keep the spirit of the day (happiness / love)? I was originally thinking of having her picture blown up and on a easle on my side during the ceremony however we just had the service a week ago and I think that it'd bring up too much sadness as a visual reminder that she isn't there... her favorite color was pink and my wedding colors are black, white, and green. I was thinking I could add a pink rose to my bouquet and to my Mom's corsage and Dad's boutineer?

I'm not sure if anyone else has had to face this situation or has known someone that has, but most of the ideas I'm finding online are about honoring parents and grandparents and this is so different - and it was so recent.

Any thoughts or suggestions you have would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening and good luck with all of your wedding planning.

Re: How to honor recent death of sister?

  • edited May 2010
    Hi there--

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I have two sisters, and I can only imagine what you and your family are going through. 

    I've heard of carrying an important memory like a photo or a piece of jewellery in your bouquet, as you walk down the aisle she will be "with" you.  I say do whatever feels right in your heart.  It must be so hard for you.  ((Knottie hugs))

    ETA:  I love the pink flower idea.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I think you are doing the right thing moving on and skipping the picture on the easel.  I love the flower idea.  You could mention it in the program or make a dedication to her in the program.  You may also ask the person doing the ceremony to say just a few words.  One other thought is wearing her jewelry or even just pinning it to your dress.
  • Do the flower idea. The picture, sorry to say, would cast a sad pall over the event.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. But the pps are right. Honor her memory with something happy. She would have wanted you to.
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  • Aw. So sorry for your loss. I think the pink flower idea is beautiful. Simple and well thought out. I also like the idea of wearing her favorite piece of jewelry or incorporating it into your bouquet.
  • Just wanted to say I'm a so sorry for your loss.  And I think all the PPs have good ideas of how to honor her.  We are honoring FI father by draping an American Flag over the chair he would have sat in at the ceremony.  I know a lot of people would say that it is too much.  But he was a marine and the american flag meant a lot to him and my FI family.  When they all started to hear about our idea they were taken away, they truly appreciated it.  
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