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Bridal Shower/Wedding Invitation Etiquette

ShyDreamer00ShyDreamer00
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This is in regards to allowing children at the bridal shower. I personally, don't have a problem with it and we'll have plenty of food for everyone. However, at the wedding reception it is primarily adult-oriented except for immediate family and first cousins who are under the age of 16 (which is only about 10 kids). So is it proper etiquette to still allow children to the bridal shower if you don't intend to have them at the wedding reception?
Like, I said, I don't care about the kids at the bridal shower, but I don't want it to seem like they will be allowed at the wedding reception either. Our iwedding nvitations are being addressed exactly to who is invited, plus even the RSVP cards will give the number of seats reserved. We are providing FREE babysitters for those who have to travel with children and that will be at the hotel (but they have to let us know ahead of time if they plan to utilize that service). Is there anything I am missing? Thank you for any advice :)
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Invitation Etiquette

  • strlzfan11strlzfan11 member
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    Any child invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding.

    In theory, the idea of providing a babysitting service is a good one, but in reality it might not work out the way you want it to.  Some parents do not feel comfortable leaving their children with people they do not know.
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  • ShyDreamer00ShyDreamer00
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    Thank you-I agree with you and the bridal shower invitations I was simply going to address it to the person they are intended for (not add children on). The other problem that I run into is that my FI's side of the family is Puerto Rican and tend to bring children whether its addressed to everyone or not. Like I said, the bridal shower is not a big deal, but the reception will be.
    We did inform my FMIL about the no children except for those I mentioned so that she can help explain the issue if it would come to her attention. I know the babysitter isn't the most ideal, but its the best we could come up with to help out since we don't want 20-30 kids running around our reception with 200 adult guests.
    We tried to keep things pretty clear-cut about the children invited so that we don't have lots of confusion (and anger). I know some people will be upset, but my parents are paying for everything pretty much so its their dime..not ours.
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  • bongebonge member
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    edited April 2012
    I think if the shower is addressed to the adult & they bring the children themselves then it is on them. Are you giving the shower yourself?

    I would not do the babysitter unless people specifically asked, i also would not pay for it, while a nice gesture it is not necesary. I would never expect a b & g to pay for me to have a night out, i am an adult, i can take care of it myself. I get where you are coming from but it is not needed, either they can find their own childcare or will decline.

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  • rebarobert2012rebarobert2012
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    If you are inviting certain children to the shower, they must also be invited to the wedding.
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