My fiance and I have decided not to make a registry because we have lived together for 5 years, have two children and honestly don't need a thing (seriously, I already have two blenders, 3 sets of steak knives, 5 frying pans and FOUR pizza cutters!!) But my MOH wants to host a shower for me. It's going to be in the morning so we are calling it a Bridal Brunch. Since we aren't registered my MOH wants to do a money tree or wishing well. I made the mistake of mentioning this to my very opinionated FMIL. She told me in no uncertain terms that I must make a registry and that I cannot have a wishing well shower because "people don't like that sort of thing". Now, my MOH had a wishing well shower and between it and the wedding she ended up with nearly $4500 in cash and gift cards...so clearly ppl couldn't have been that bothered by it. But what my FMIL said still makes me wonder if I should have a shower at all.. Is there an alternative to this? Do I just tell my MOH that I've decided not to have a shower after all??