Hello all;
I just wanted to find out if my situation is common at all. Planning my wedding for February and nothing in my area is cheaper in the "off" wedding season, seems that it doesn't apply.
I know most people don't do "dry" weddings, but we are planning to because I am allergic (as well as a few of my family members), both our families don't really drink (like at all), and we are planning to be done our day by 8pm. Because of these reasons, as well as not wanting to spend an entire downpayment on a house on this wedding, it is a great option for us... in theory.
So my situation is that venues that I am speaking with are telling me that they do not do "dry" weddings on Saturdays. So if I choose to limit my alcohol to just wine, I am subject to only being allowed to have my wedding on a Friday or Sunday (or Monday through Thursday - my guests will almost all be OOT, so get real - no weekday!) And icing on the cake is that "dry" weddings, on a day that I don't want, will also cost me upwards of $1300 for the room rental fee (which would not be charged if I was having a bar).
We will have dinner wine for those who would like wine, but we didn't want to pay for the small number of drinks that people would have and I am NOT making my guests pay cash bar. (Cash bar still has a sliding scale for room rental fee if people don't drink enough, and I know they won't.)
I feel forced into either having my wedding on a day that is inconveinient for my guests, or having unwanted alcohol; both which will cost me extra no matter what.
I guess I'm just annoyed because I can't seem to find a place that will let me have what I want, and I don't think I'm being unreasonable with my limited budget bc I was still going to be running at least $100pp.
Any ideas other than having my wedding in a backyard or the like? I know I am looking for something more formal - a once in a lifetime event for me and my guests.
Thanks!
Jessi