In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-healthy-relationship-sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:7c5d0070-107d-4483-8530-937b352c9379Post:385da544-7623-4311-ba1a-918673a90e5f">Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?</a>: [QUOTE]I also had to re-read that to see why I would write "but sex" at all and realized I meant to but that with "I don't want to be TMI, but" and instead it came off as butt sex :P. Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-healthy-relationship-sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7c5d0070-107d-4483-8530-937b352c9379Post:7f8f9e66-8017-4e4e-bf6a-f05415e0fe19">Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex? : Your so scandelous Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE] Ha, FI wishes.
But I may or may not be using my Anthro giftcard to buy a cute (read: sexy) night outfit.
If I had to choose between never having sex again and not being with H, I think I would stay with H and I cannot believe I am even saying that. It amazes me still to feel that way about someone.
I don't think so unless there was some medical reason for it and the other partner made the sacrifice for it. The older I get, the more I realize that sex is absolutely vital to a relationship. When people stop having sex, that is really when people start cheating. Everybody wants to feel desired and sexy and loved in that way and if you don't try to keep that spark there in the relationship, then there is the potential for trouble in my opinion. Why do peope usually cheat? Because they don't feel like they are getting that attention at home and someone else comes in and makes them feel sexy again. They always say that the sex is the last thing to go... and from various relationships I have seen through friends and my own past, I find it to be partly true. I know a great couple that are the best of friends but they just no longer have sex. I could place a strong bet that they won't be together next New Year's eve.
Hmm sexless marriage leads to cheating. I am now going to chain H to the house so he can't go find some sexy piece of arse. (Yes I'm being sarcastic, mostly)
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-healthy-relationship-sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:7c5d0070-107d-4483-8530-937b352c9379Post:ebad0cea-af33-42a2-858f-4e67a88d8a54">Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?</a>: [QUOTE]Hmm sexless marriage leads to cheating. I am now going to chain H to the house so he can't go find some sexy piece of arse. (Yes I'm being sarcastic, mostly) Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Better by a big pad lock!! Sexless men go crazy dont ya know??
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-healthy-relationship-sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7c5d0070-107d-4483-8530-937b352c9379Post:889b5304-dde3-48a0-bc80-81160f07a390">Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?</a>: [QUOTE]Yes, because I don't equate sex and intimacy at all. Intimacy is cuddling with me on the couch. Sex is being able to push the right buttons. Intimacy is far more important to me. Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]
<div>I use to feel exactly like you about sex and intimacy, and my actions followed it in ways yours likely have not.</div><div> </div><div>I am going to go a little TMI here and say that for several years, I had an extreme sex drive and for me sex was definitely about satisfying physical needs. Honestly, had we not been living in the age of AIDS I probably would have slept with considerably more people because my drive was just that intense, and I was not always in a significant relationship. Instead, between the three or so LTR's I had prior to DH (one lasting ten years) I kept a select one or two f-buddies around. </div><div> </div><div>Regardless of where I was in relationship land, though I literally did not understand that whole bit about women being more emotional or connected about sex. I thought it was propaganda and socialization spread by people who could not deal with women's lust and carnality.</div><div> </div><div>Then, when I got to be in my late 30's or so I made a major emotional shift and NOW I would likely not even consider sex with someone I was not serious about (even if I were single). I got to feel all warm and fuzzy and girly about the whole thing. Now I definitely think sex is a part of intimacy, BUT only one way to be intimate. As a few people mentioned here, there are so many ways to be intimate and I think it is a lack of intimacy, rather than sex that kills marriages. The lack of sex is usually a symptom of a lack of intimacy.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-healthy-relationship-sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7c5d0070-107d-4483-8530-937b352c9379Post:42444db4-a861-4415-af7c-9b3425755895">Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex? : Sex is important to us but I can't imagine no sex due to a medical issue after the marriage being a deal breaker. We would figure something else out. I love so many things about H I wouldn't leave him if sex was removed from our relationship. Posted by COkristi[/QUOTE]
Ditto to this. And the intimacy v. sex thing. Not the same thing at all. You can have them at the same time but I would not necessarily use them interchangeably.
Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex?
[QUOTE]I also had to re-read that to see why I would write "but sex" at all and realized I meant to but that with "I don't want to be TMI, but" and instead it came off as butt sex :P.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]
Your so scandelous
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex? : Your so scandelous
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Ha, FI wishes.
But I may or may not be using my Anthro giftcard to buy a cute (read: sexy) night outfit.
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Intimacy is cuddling with me on the couch. Sex is being able to push the right buttons.
Intimacy is far more important to me.
Hmm sexless marriage leads to cheating. I am now going to chain H to the house so he can't go find some sexy piece of arse. (Yes I'm being sarcastic, mostly)
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I don't think a sexless marriage leads to cheating at all. Not even a little.
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[QUOTE]Hmm sexless marriage leads to cheating. I am now going to chain H to the house so he can't go find some sexy piece of arse. (Yes I'm being sarcastic, mostly)
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Better by a big pad lock!! Sexless men go crazy dont ya know??
[QUOTE]Yes, because I don't equate sex and intimacy at all. Intimacy is cuddling with me on the couch. Sex is being able to push the right buttons. Intimacy is far more important to me.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]
<div>I use to feel exactly like you about sex and intimacy, and my actions followed it in ways yours likely have not.</div><div>
</div><div>I am going to go a little TMI here and say that for several years, I had an extreme sex drive and for me sex was definitely about satisfying physical needs. Honestly, had we not been living in the age of AIDS I probably would have slept with considerably more people because my drive was just that intense, and I was not always in a significant relationship. Instead, between the three or so LTR's I had prior to DH (one lasting ten years) I kept a select one or two f-buddies around. </div><div>
</div><div>Regardless of where I was in relationship land, though I literally did not understand that whole bit about women being more emotional or connected about sex. I thought it was propaganda and socialization spread by people who could not deal with women's lust and carnality.</div><div>
</div><div>Then, when I got to be in my late 30's or so I made a major emotional shift and NOW I would likely not even consider sex with someone I was not serious about (even if I were single). I got to feel all warm and fuzzy and girly about the whole thing. Now I definitely think sex is a part of intimacy, BUT only one way to be intimate. As a few people mentioned here, there are so many ways to be intimate and I think it is a lack of intimacy, rather than sex that kills marriages. The lack of sex is usually a symptom of a lack of intimacy.</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you have a healthy relationship without sex? : Sex is important to us but I can't imagine no sex due to a medical issue after the marriage being a deal breaker. We would figure something else out. I love so many things about H I wouldn't leave him if sex was removed from our relationship.
Posted by COkristi[/QUOTE]
Ditto to this. And the intimacy v. sex thing. Not the same thing at all. You can have them at the same time but I would not necessarily use them interchangeably.