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Bachelorette Party Etiquette
Is it bad etiquette to invite college friends to the bachelorette party, but not invite them to the wedding? It's going to be a beach thing, with drinking involved. Nothing formal, nothing uptight. I feel like I want to get them together because it has been a long time, but we're not close enough to invite to the wedding. I don't see a problem with it (and I don't plan on inviting them to the bridal shower obviously) but informal tradition says otherwise. Any advice or anyone with a similar experience?
And yes my wedding is over a year away, and I am already planning out my bachelorette party to get it out of the way since it's not a suprise and not complicated. I'm going to be finishing up my Master's program next summer so it's the last thing I want to be thinking about! So, no rude comments please :P
And yes my wedding is over a year away, and I am already planning out my bachelorette party to get it out of the way since it's not a suprise and not complicated. I'm going to be finishing up my Master's program next summer so it's the last thing I want to be thinking about! So, no rude comments please :P
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Re: Bachelorette Party Etiquette
That's not to say that you can't throw a beach party for your college friends just for the fun of it. Just don't "tie" the party to anything wedding-related.
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[QUOTE]Is it bad etiquette to invite college friends to the bachelorette party, but not invite them to the wedding? It's going to be a beach thing, with drinking involved. Nothing formal, nothing uptight. I feel like I want to get them together because it has been a long time, but we're not close enough to invite to the wedding. I don't see a problem with it (and I don't plan on inviting them to the bridal shower obviously) but informal tradition says otherwise. Any advice or anyone with a similar experience? And yes my wedding is over a year away, and I am already planning out my bachelorette party to get it out of the way since it's not a suprise and not complicated. I'm going to be finishing up my Master's program next summer so it's the last thing I want to be thinking about! So, no rude comments please :P
Posted by kkerr02[/QUOTE]
If you want to see them, see them.
But don't invite them to a party for a wedding when they aren't even invited to the wedding. How can you not see a problem with that?
Host a separate get together with your old friends that doesn't involve your wedding or wedding related parties.
Just don't call it a bachelorette party and you have no problem here.
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Also, it's incredibly rude to plan your own bachelorette party and shower. I wouldn't go.
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Now two things, which other's have probably pointed out (I didn't want to read through all the responses).
1.) If your wedding is over a year away, you shouldn't be worrying about guest-lists for your bachelorette party or shower. Your relationships with people may change to the point where you no longer want to invite some people, and you will grow closer to others and wish for them to be there. I would caution you against making decisions that will lock you in to who you can and cannot invite to your wedding. Worry about the guestlist for your bachelorette party when the time comes to actually have your bachelorette party. It's fine to think of ideas, but don't tell anyone your specific plans for who will attend just yet.
2.) You're not supposed to plan your own bachelorette party. You're not supposed to plan your own shower. Wait for someone to ask for your input and prefered guestlsts for these gatherings, and leave it be.
[QUOTE]Why don't you just have a beach weekend and call it a beach weekend? Also, it's incredibly rude to plan your own bachelorette party and shower. I wouldn't go.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]
This. Co-signed, Krysti21.
2 - anyone invited to a pre-wedding party (bachelorette, shower, engagement, what have you) MUST be invited to the wedding.
3 - Just have a girls' weekend.
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